I moved to a new neighbourhood and was delighted to know that there were children in our street that were around the same age as mine and they all met up and started friendships. Overtime I became friends with one of the mums as she is single like me so we had lots in common with raising two children on our own. Unfortunately one of her children has adhd and constantly is on the wind up, they will come into our house and pick up my child’s things and throw them, so my children have got to a point where they say can you not touch that can you not touch this as they are worried it will get broken. This child then continues to pick the things up knowing it will wind them up, one after the other after the other until all hell breaks lose and there’s a screaming match from my children. This child also is the silent winder upper, sticking his tongue out, giving the middle finger and name calling. My child is reactive and emotional so gets upset and starts screaming 😩😩😩. They are 9 and 8 my child is the elder. The wind up is hard for me to deal with as there are only so many times you can tell them to just ignore it, walk away etc etc . I’ve had conversations with the other mum but as you can appreciate she has her child’s best intentions at heart and as they are adhd it kind of gets excused to a certain degree, don’t get me wrong she does deal with it but a lot of blame is put on how my child reacts 😩. It’s coming to a point now where I can’t bare the stress as there is another child in the street that mine plays with and they get on really well but my friends child knew this child first. They are in the same year at school just different classes so they get on really well. Now the problem is that if my child plays with this child the mum feels her child is left out and remarks are made on how unfair it is! It’s so hard as it’s on my door step. I don’t know what to do! Do I keep my child in and just say stay home as it causes rifts between the other two or try and sort out allocated times with the other child as to when they can play and when the other child plays with them.
I just want to move away as I can’t deal with the stress. Help