Should I be concerned??

[Charlotte57]

My 10-year-old son has a girlfriend and has been texting her this week. He isn't good at spelling so doesn't reply with more than one-word answers.

His 'girlfriend' has told him he isn't allowed to speak with the girls in his class, messages him at midnight asking why his ignoring her (his asleep at this time) says she will dump him when he doesn't reply, and tells him if he loved her he will reply. She has sent him pictures of the top of our driveway during her dog walk (we don't live near her)

I don't let him on his phone often throughout the day. Am I overthinking this? Or should I be telling him he's not allowed to message her?

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

I wouldn't tell him that he can't message her, that in itself might give him a confusing message, he's with a controlling girl and you want to point out how it's wrong but you don't want to do that by being telling him he can't do certain things.

I would talk about what a healthy relationship looks like and ask him if he thinks that what his GF is saying is right and how it makes him feel.

I wouldn't let him have his phone at night either.