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We have had a good few days and then a melt down today

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 10/02/2008 18:16

DS1 has been pretty good this week. I think a mixture of him being better and me coping much better when he was being challenging. Yesterday he went out on his own with his Dad for the day and today we have been pottering about the house and all has been fine.

He asked for some chocolate at 4 o'clock and I said we would see after tea. This had to be repeated a few times as he kept saying he wanted some. He then removed the batteries from the remote control (Charlie and the chocolate factory was on which was why he wanted chocolate) and then threw it in the bin. DH sent him out and then he went to his room and wrecked it. This went on for a while with things getting thrown and books torn.

We have talked and there isn't anything he has said which can explain his behaviour and the speed in which his mood changes.

I am not completely down hearted. I will remember that I can do this and as long as I stay calm we will be fine. I felt a bit more today that he would do as I asked and that it was okay to be in charge.

Am I right in thinking this is probably okay that we will have some blips and to just start afresh tomorrow?

He has no books or toys in his room now as I don't want anything else wrecked.

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 10/02/2008 19:09

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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 10/02/2008 19:09

Just remembered he said he didn't like my baking either!

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Peachy · 10/02/2008 19:11

You'll get the blips yes, its just the way it is I think. Is he on half term? I only ask because ds1 has been a prize terror the last weekend and its the routine being broken.... I did say i could take him over the school and he could sit outside with a packed lunch if he missed it that much, but he declined . Shame.

Removing everything else is a good idea.

chipkid · 10/02/2008 19:12

yes definitely-it would be strange if there weren't blips. I have been following your thread-well done for getting through the week. I don't think of tantrums as a step backwards as long as I haven't lost it-if you see what I mean-if I stay calm and resolve it without shouting then its a huge success-tantrums will still happen-it is how you deal with them that is important. Sounds like you're doing great!

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 10/02/2008 19:12

No, they break up this Friday.

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VictorianSqualor · 10/02/2008 19:23

Good news today NAB, nan has signed a letter giving FIL power of attorney, I had to witness it this afternoon, so pil's are goign to sell their house and nan's and buy one with an annexe for nan, and have grandad move in the main house with them.

VictorianSqualor · 10/02/2008 19:25

Now for your thread!
I think you're doing really well, All children have bad days and good, it's how you deal with it that matters.
Your line "Am I right in thinking this is probably okay that we will have some blips and to just start afresh tomorrow?" is spot on. Keep going!

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 10/02/2008 19:29

That is great news, VS! Is your FIL still inthe hospital?

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VictorianSqualor · 10/02/2008 19:31

Yes, we arent sure what is going to happen until the houses are sold, he might have to stay with PIL's, nan is still going mad, he got FIL to buy a birthday card and send it for him as it was her birthday, she has filled it with abuse and sent it to the hospital but at least we know there is a way forward now.

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 10/02/2008 19:32
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NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/02/2008 07:58

He is still saying this morning that he doesn't want to live here and he doesn't want to oive in this world. He is being mean to his brother and sister and I am warn out.

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chipkid · 11/02/2008 09:22

this is really hard-when I am faced with similar I just keep telling myself to be gentle and that he is only little-I know that isn't much help-just try not to lose it and he will repsond eventually

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/02/2008 09:35

I am pleased that I am not shouting any more. It just feels like he is on a self destruct path.

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VictorianSqualor · 11/02/2008 11:55

I really feel for you NAB, but you are doing the right thing by not retalliating, however hard it seems right now.
I'm crap with hugs but I have some minstrels if they'll cheer you up a bit?

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 11/02/2008 11:57

Would love some if only I wasn't trying to lose this awful extra baby weight.

Have posted a thread re SENCO appointment if you have anymore words of wisdom.

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