My nearly 4 yo ds went to a play date today with a few other boys from his nursery and some of his behaviour has made me question if everything is all good. Seeing the other boys who are in the same class as my lo has also allowed me to dig deeper where I will ask some questions tomorrow about his development with the nursery teachers.
At home he plays on his own, has a good attention span and is generally good but displays typical 3/4 year old behaviour. He was and still is very needy but what I noticed today is that he socially cannot play with other kids. It's either chasing, getting in other kids ways, snatching toys or getting in their face. Some of the boys were fine but some were quite vocal about this.
My ds does annoy them and seems very immature next to them. Then there was the whinging and moaning and frequently crying because he couldn't get his own way. There were also moments when he gets easily wound up and can't ignore when someone is bothering him despite distracting him to play with something else. My parenting was tested today 
There were two coolheaded boys who just played with the toys although one was a twin so I guess they are used to it but I'm worried there is something that the nursery may have missed. The whole play date felt like my son was a toddler next to them. Occasionally there were pushing and shoving and snatching but somehow my ds was in the middle of this despite doing something else a metre a way. It's like he loves making himself a target for getting involved even though he had nothing to do with it iyswim.
I would like to ask your experience in your own children and how would you approach nursery?