10 month old baby only wants mum

[MayBaby22]

I’m seriously panicking as i am due to start back work at the end of next month.

For context, baby had silent reflux and CMPA, symptoms starting from around 8 weeks. She rarely napped during the day and cried a lot until we got the bottom of her problems. Even then, getting her to nap during the day required a lot of effort.

During this time I could barely put her down, never mind leave the room i.e to use the bathroom, without her screaming the place down. Hubby couldn’t take her…she didn’t want to know. Screaming until back in my arms.

We have now gotten to the stage that she naps reasonably well twice a day, will tolerate hubby for longer periods of time (she will now go a walk in the pram with daddy without screaming until she’s back in my arms).

However she just does not tolerate being with other people, even family that she sees regularly. I tried to leave her with my mum and dad. Was away for 40 mins and she screamed until she back in my arms.

Has anyone had similar problems? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I just don’t know what to do 😢

I think it's fairly common behaviour for this age, especially if she's got allergies.

What are the childcare plans when you're at work?

I have literally posted about this too.

I am in exactly the same situation. It’s so stressful. I too am so worried.

my baby is 8 months and hasn’t really been anywhere other than with us.

I spoke to my mum and dad who have agreed to take her 30 mins - 1 hour twice a week so she gets used to being left. She cried for the full 30 mins today. So distressed.

I’m going to request if the nursery can give her more days to settle in

@PritiPatelsMaker
I know that at this age they can go through a “clingy” phase (for want if a better word) but it doesn’t seem to be a phase with her. She has been like this since a very young age. There have been improvements…we went from her screaming if I even put her down, to only screaming if I left the room. On particularly bad days she still screams if I pop out if the room to get something.

My parents and in-laws will be watching her but at this stage it seems like this is going to be impossible.

@Letsbekindplease
I’m so sorry you are in this situation too. You’re right….the guilt is huge. If we try anything that makes a difference I’ll be sure to let you know. I hope the nursery are supportive and it’s not nearly as bad as you imagine it’s going to be 🤞