Waking in the night at 15min intervals

[Meje]

My DD is 14months and mostly sleeps pretty well-aside from regressions and illness.

Recently though she’s started to wake in the night-around 4 usually-and once she’s been calmed down and any issue been dealt with
(calpol if she seems in pain, an extra layer if she seems cold, water if she seems thirsty)

We put her back in the cot and she’s either asleep/on her way…then about 15mins later she’s up crying inconsolably again.
It doesn’t ramp up either, she’s content and then suddenly she’s frantic.

I don’t know if I’m maybe fussing with her too much in the night and I should just comfort her quickly then put her back, I guess I’m looking for the silver bullet that might stop this behaviour-pretty unrealistic!

Its so hard to keep getting up, feel like you’ve settled her then have to get out of bed again just as you were drifting off…on repeat for hours every night for a few weeks…

Any suggestions welcome! Thanks!
She doesn’t seem to have any new teeth coming, doesn’t seem unwell…

When mine wake that frequently it's always been teeth or not properly asleep when I try to put them down. Perhaps hold her a little bit longer?

But having re-read your post I would suspect teeth moving around

Thanks for the response!

Teeth was my thought too but nothing seems to be appearing 2 weeks in! plus calpol doesn’t seem to make a difference.

My partner seems to think I should hold her for longer but I thought they had to learn to put themselves back to sleep? I’ve tried it both ways and even after holding her for 15mins she still wakes up 15 mins later!

My partner seems to think I should hold her for longer but I thought they had to learn to put themselves back to sleep? I’ve tried it both ways and even after holding her for 15mins she still wakes up 15 mins later!

Has your DP tried settling her? How long does he hold her for?

@Meje they can only learn to put themselves when they are developmentally ready too - it's not something you can force them to do unless you sleep train of course but personally that's never something I wanted to do. If you go down the let them figure it out for themselves route it basically is a case of being able to reduce the amount of help they need to get back to sleep. In the case of my DD1 I fed her to sleep until she was 1.5 years, then she stopped feeding at night - her choice, so I rocked her, then she just needing holding, then I needed to lie next to her, then sit next to her and hold her hand, now at four years old sometimes she wants to hold my hand and sometimes I just need to sit there. That's just an example for you to see what it might look like and they are all different so please don't feel you have to follow that exact route and timings. No one ever tells you before you have children that you are going to be responsible for their sleep for years 🤣

Just thinking on your waking up after 15 mins she might just be in that hyper alert phase when they just know you aren't there any more and wake up - just a case of time and sleeping a bit more deeply in that case. She'll get there and they really are all different - my DD1 would bing awake as soon as you put her down didn't matter how gently or how long you held her for. DD2, you can hold for about 20mins and put her down she snoozes away no problems. Neither were sleep trained and both fed to sleep - just different children.