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Don't know what to do anymore

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SJB30 · 14/02/2023 17:32

Hi all, so abit of a long one.. I'm at the end of my tether with my 9year old. I just don't know what to do anymore. He barely eats , he refuses to sleep, he's wild, loud, disrespectful and has no concept of personal responsibility. No sense of personal hygiene, or sense of time, no sympathy or empathy towards others. I've asked his school in the past to put in a mental health assessment to see about things like ADHD and autism but because he's so anxious and quiet at school they threw it out. He's a completely different person at home than at school, he's aggressive and physical. He gets so angry and is negative about everything, every second of his waking day he doesn't appreciate anything. He hates me and screams at me that I'm so nasty and strict and why am I like this why don't I let him do anything(when I'm constantly trying to get him to play or do fun things, but everything is boring). I don't know where I've gone wrong I've always tried to teach him how to appreciate things in life. Me and his dad are so chill, relatively quiet, we don't party , drink , argue ect so I don't even know where he's learnt this behaviour from. I don't even know what I'm asking for I guess just to see if anyone else has been in a similar position, can offer any words of advice or anything?
Thanks for reading my rant.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 14/02/2023 19:49

I can offer you my full sympathy @SJB30, sounds very much like my DC2.

I would approach the school again, but if possible ask for a meeting with his Teacher and their SENCO and ask fir their SENCO to assess him.

The quickest way I know to get an assessment for ASD at the moment is either to go private or through the charity Caudwell Children.

JS1809 · 14/02/2023 19:59

Can you go to the GP and ask for an assessment?

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