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My 8 yr old has no stranger danger

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RedDoozer · 13/02/2023 21:02

He talks to everyone and anyone. He will reveal personal details, like my freaking credit card PIN number, or address. I’m at my wits end finding ourselves regurgitating the same spiel. It’s utterly relentless.

We’re at fault cos he literally had all our attention all the time, we struggled to have him and had several losses including our newborn daughter, so we found ourselves giving all our time to him. He has no siblings and lockdowns hit us at the end of nursery and start of primary so he missed out on peer interaction at a vital stage.

no matter what we say to him he makes a beeline for all the grown ups and courts their attention to the extent where he’s pestering them. We’ve tried telling him over and over that the other adults are with their families, they don’t want you taking them away from their kids etc but it does not sink in. Adults don’t help by making non committal vaguely encouraging sounds like “hmm” “oh yeah” and “cool” which encourages him to continue. I wish they would tell him to go away as I think he needs to hear it from others not just his parents.

has anyone else been successful? Would love feedback/advice

TIA

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PritiPatelsMaker · 14/02/2023 07:47

So, so sorry about the loss of your DD @RedDoozer, I can't begin to imagine how hard that is.

As for your DS, I'm not sure it's anything you've done wrong. How is he at school? Does he have a friendship group? Does his teacher have any concerns?

RedDoozer · 16/02/2023 18:40

He suffers from distraction and distracting. Freq told to stop talking, sit/stand still etc, and to focus. Thing is he is super clever and ahead of most of his class so his work isn’t suffering yet. When he has slept well I get great reports from his school. We’ve had a meeting with his teachers and head mistress, they were considering adhd as a possibility but when he has slept he shows he’s capable of focus and concentration. When he’s tired he can’t sit or stay still and this unfortunately is most of the time. His teachers say he gets on well with his peers but our son comes home with different tales, again when he’s tired he upsets easily and takes things to heart as we all do, so he feels I listened to, left out a lot and like people are being mean to him. I’m at a loss. We do have a gp appt next week but I was hoping to hear some success stories! School have given us social stories to read but I don’t think they’re having much affect currently
he was such a great sleeper, i was the envy of PEEP 😔 now he’s up and awake god knows what time, he won’t tell us in case he gets told off, and he has trouble switching his thoughts off to go back to sleep. This has been the pattern since starting P1. I don’t know if they all linked. I fear I’ve gone off on a tangent

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PritiPatelsMaker · 16/02/2023 18:49

If school are suggesting ADHD personally I would agree to the referral for assessment. If a Paediatrician decides he hasn't hit it then that's ok but if he has you may get more support plus access to meds.

ImInACage · 20/02/2023 08:13

My DS is 10 and does this. He has ADHD and doesn't understand social boundaries at all. For this and other issues we've had to get him an EHCP, because this type of behaviour will make him vulnerable to older pupils when he gets up to high school later this year. There is no way I could let him walk to school alone.

I also agree that if the school are suggesting an assessment, it's worth pursuing it.

PritiPatelsMaker · 20/02/2023 08:48

One of the meds he could get if he diagnosed is Melatonin which will help him drift on to sleep.

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