I ran across this thread and I had to add my question. This is exactly the type of thing that is on my mind. DS was a little late on certain milestones (ie - didn't point or wave at 12 months, started at 15 months), didn't use mama or dada specifically until 13 months, didn't walk till 14 1/2 months. He used to like to play with the wheels on his toy cars. He struggled with solids As you can see, back at this stage, I was very worried.
I took ds to be evaluated. The dev. ped. had no worries about him as he was very social, engaged, connected, gave things to people, sort of showed off a little.
Gradually over the months that followed, many things fell into place. By 17 months, he waved, imitated, played appropriately. Symbolic play emerged. He was extremely verbal, speaking at least 250 - 300 words. He knew animals and their sounds, letters, shapes, the beginning of colors. His receptive language blossomed, and he would follow commands. He went through a shy stranger-anxiety phase, but came out of it around 17 months. He loves playing with kids. He knows the names and is very attached to everyone close to him. He eats everything. He loves trying new foods, loves exploring new situations.
He is now 21 months. He puts 2 - 3 words together. He's very verbal, that's kind of his area.
HOWEVER, I can't stop thinking that if someone gave him the CHAT, he probably wouldn't pass. I mean, on a really good day, he might. But he practically NEVER points when asked. If I point to something - anything - in a book or anywhere else and I say , "What's that?" he will tell me, whether it's an apple or a calculator, chances are he will know and share the word. But when we look at a book and I say, "where's the apple?" He will just look at it but he won't point.
He occasionally points to things in his environment that are interesting - a star, a picture. This will be accompanied by his telling me, "star! oh, yeah!" or whatever else he is excited about. He sometimes points to things that he wants. But it is a very infrequent sometimes.
He is much more likely to use words than to point.
Also, he was a whole hand pointer until 16 months, then for a few months, pointed with the finger isolated, now pointing is pretty rare and it's eratic - just as likely to be a vague whole hand gesture in the direction of something as a finger point.
Worry bells went off in my head when he was a little younger. Despite much progress for which I am so grateful, I haven't been able to turn them off completely. Occasionally, I will observe a little quirk - he toe-walked the other day for a minute, for example, he had never done this before - and I start panicking. But inevitably the quirk fades after a day, and I chalk it up to experimenting.
The pointing thing doesn't seem to fade, however.
Should I be worrying about this?
I guess the other things are pretty minor. He doesn't refer to himself as "me" yet, but he will refer to himself by his name. If I ask him if he wants something, like juice, and he doesn't, he will say "no," and will push it away. If he does want it, he might say okay, or he might just repeat "juice" in an enthusiastic way, depending on his mood. But he uses so much spontaneous speech as well that I haven't let this small repition bother me. Should it? Most of the time he will answer a question. But just today, I said, "who do you want to play with elmo or grover?" and he just sat there and said nothing. Anything he needs or want, he asks for by name.
Or one more thing, recently, he started pulling his dad and me around by the hand a little. He will take our hand and say, "mama, come on!" and we will accompany to him to whatever toy he wants us to come to - he will direct us to "sit" or whatever it is he wants from us when he get there. This is usually when we are reading or something and he wants us to come and play with him.
The people who know him and see him - family, sitter, friends, other moms, ped - think I'm crazy and he is doing great. And I recognize that he is doing very well in the verbal area. He is also social, which is great (I worried so much during the shy phase when he would back away from other kids, but this only lasted a few months and coincided with the time he started walking).
I am a first time mom and prone to worry to begin with.
I just don't know what to make of this pointing thing.
I see other kids pointing all the time, and ds just doesn't do it, especially not when asked or prompted.
Any thoughts?
Thanks so much.