My 9 year old with ADHD has been really struggling in school since the start of the school year. He is currently not medicated but this is due to change soon.
He has experienced bullying in school over the past month, children are winding him up to get a reaction out of him. I have been to the school and explained that my son, although in the wrong for lashing out, shouldn't be the only child getting told off. The teacher agreeded and I requested that they monitor him more closely at school due to his impulsive and reactive behaviours. I'll add he's never done anything like this in school until the bullying started.
Last week, one child wouldn't share and told my son that he was going to watch him struggle with his art project rather than share. My son after a while got so upset and angry that he threw something at this child's leg, it happened to be a pair of scissors that were in his hand. After he had done it he realised what he had done and got really upset. The teacher told him off in class, gave him the consequences and the other child didn't have a mark or cut on him. At home, I told him off, did all the usual remove his privileges and had a talk about what had happened.
This child's parent has messaged me over the weekend demanding I take my son to her house and make him apologise to her son for what's happened. She's saying that he doesn't have ADHD, that it's bad parenting and a lack of discipline. I've obviously told her that's not going to happen and have approached the school headmaster for support as he said the class teacher dealt with it in the appropriate manner.
I'd be so upset if another child did that to my son and I can understand where she is coming from but he's already apologised with the teacher and separately in school at playtime. I can't keep expecting him to say sorry to satisfy a grown woman who's got no understanding about my child's struggles in school.
I'm sorry its long but I don't know what to do, any advice would be great.