My daughter is kind caring and clever but she’s overly emotional a lot and I’m struggling to help her accept that not everything is the end of the world and to encourage her to make her voice heard.
today she told me she feels sad all the time, when we talked about it she told me she’s struggling at school. Not with lesson and no one is bullying her but she’s always putting others first and so never gets what she wants or needs.
she has a good group of friends they always play together unfortunately because she’s not making her voice heard they’re not listening when she says no and she ends up just going along with what they want to do.
I advised her it’s ok to say no I don’t want to play (family’s or whatever game today or I don’t want to be the sister today) and she told me she try’s but she’s not listened to, so she just goes along with it and ends up feeling sad. I said well if that doesn’t work then you can walk away and ask to play with someone else and that’s ok. But she’s really afraid of hurting her friends feelings.
this is just today, the problem I really have is she’s so sensitive of others needs that she never puts herself first even when it’s something that upsets her.
I taught my daughter how to share and be kind and listen but did I teach her too well? She feels like every argument breaks her heart. Seeing her friend not get there own way upsets her to tears.
she’s my only child so maybe I’m overthinking it, it’s not the other children’s fault that she’s not as fast to put her ideas up first or that she stays quiet when she should speak up. Or that the little things they say (not meanly) she takes to heart. But how do I help her detach a little and use her voice.
I’m feeling so sad for her so maybe she gets the emotional stuff from me lol