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Tantrum's at 10 months?? Surely not!!

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Sushipaws · 05/02/2008 21:40

Help!

DD normally loves bathtime, she splashes around and plays with her toys and I wash her.

But yesterday when I tried to wash her she had a fit. She arched her back, threw her head backwards, with arms and legs thrashing. I held her so she didn't go underwater, it only lasted a few seconds and then she carried on playing with her toys. I tried to wash her while playing a game, making the sponge make noises, but she soon clicked on and had another fit.

So I decided to just let her play and maybe she was just having a bad day and didn't want to be washed.

But the same thing happened today when I tried to wash her. This time I waited till she calmed down then tried again. It took a few attemps but once I'd started she calmed down and started splashing and smiling again.

She is not scared of the sponge, the water is not too hot or cold, she isn't unwell.

Is this a tantrum?

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elliemac · 05/02/2008 22:04

My DD does this from time to time. She has spells where she just won't go near the bath for a week or so. I end up having to wash her in the kitchen sink or give her a shower. Its really wierd. I have noticed though that she seems to do it when she's teething. Is your little one teething? Don't push her though she will go back in eventually - its a case of keep trying i'm afraid.

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Sushipaws · 05/02/2008 22:09

Thanks Ellie

She has just got a new tooth actually, we had a terrible week of teething and it finally stopped 2 days ago. And this started happening 2 days ago so I guess it's linked

She's quite happy in the bath, she just doesn't want to be washed.

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Wilkie · 05/02/2008 22:11

TBH - at this age they're not particularly grubby so don't worry too much. I would just gently trickle water over her and leave it until she settles back down.

elliemac · 05/02/2008 22:12

I was sure with my LO that it had something to do with her bottom being sore from teething. It just seem funny that she always did it then. She's teething now and we're having the same problem. Can't wait till she has a full set - i'm knackered

puffylovett · 05/02/2008 22:16

ooh goody, as awful as it sounds i'm so glad to hear someone else is having similar probs !

my DS is having these types of tantrums when i try to put him in the car seat or buggy. neither of which usually cause a problem. Oh, and also whenever i pick him up when he's doing something or remove him from doing something that i don't want him to be doing.

In other words, my mum says he's being strong willed ! It's HORRIBLE ! he's awful ! where's my mild mannered lovely little lad gone.

could it REALLY be teething ?!

tori32 · 05/02/2008 22:25

Yes it is! You interupted her game! Tantrums can start from very early, even as young as 6 months old. Children of 4 mths may scream when put onto their tummy until sat back up or rolled over onto back, pure frustration at not being able to move. 6mths old playing sat up and toy out of reach so starts screaming until someone gives the toy back. These are all tantrums about not getting what they want!Most first time parents don't see these cues, they think something is upsetting the baby but it is a tantrum.

BigBadMouse · 05/02/2008 22:41

Tantrum for sure...they do have more tantrums when tired, teething, hungry etc (as do us parents).

My DD2 started at 6-7 months. Now at 20m, some days she has 6-7 per day and they last 45 mins..work out how much of the day that can take up! She's getting better though thankfully and she is an extreme case apparently.

My DD1 was pretty angelic and really only had them when I put her in her pushchair when she wanted to walk etc.

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Sushipaws · 05/02/2008 23:21

BBM

So, this is a glimse of the future.

Oh well, at least she's stared sleeping better

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BigBadMouse · 05/02/2008 23:28

Oh yeah, tantrums are great for tiring them out

Hope it isn't a glimpse of your future unless you have a strong constitution. If it gets worse you certainly won't be alone though

tori32 · 06/02/2008 13:25

shushipaws don't worry, tantrums seem to settle down once they can articulate their needs verbally! As soon as dd could speak we used to say 'don't tantrum, use your words', to remind her that she needs to tell us what the problem is.
Mine only does it now if I am not understanding her.(rare.)
She had an almighty one just outside the Drs after her 2yr check. 4hrs later I was thinking about why when it dawned on me. I went into the Drs and she tried to play with a pram in the waiting room but got pulled away. During the checkup she kept saying 'my play with my pram' which I thought she meant at home. I said when we leave you can play with your pram. All was well until leaving. She had obviously thought I said 'you can play with the pram before you leave.'

Sorry its long winded but the point is that crossed wires cause tantrums.

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