Hi
Am really hoping someone can offer sage advice with 2 probs that have with dd1 who was three last week.
Poo problem. After failed initial attempt, left potty training until dd was 2 y 9 mon. Got the hang of wees in a couple of days and initially did 2 poos in the potty but since october she has consistently done her poos either in her pants or in the nighttime nappy. I have tried everything (rewards, stories, potty, toilet, pink toilet roll, special soap, you name it) in addition to completely backing off for a month but we are not making any progress. The problem I have is that 4 mornings out of 7 she appears to have a very early bowel movement (she'll wake at 5.30) so she'll have done it before I get to her.. She's always had early bowels since a baby but on the day it happens, I miss an opportunity to encourage poos to happen somewhere else. I was ok with this but she has recently started nursery and where she is soiling herself, she is not being cleaned up very well and it breaks my heart to see her subjected to this. Has anyone else had this problem. She also has quite 'loose' bowels as my m-in-law puts it so we never much warning of what's coming (do I need to get the white bread in for a while?!)
Secondly her sleep. Ever since big bed, sleep bad but escalated properly when I went back to work after dd2 in the summer. Over christmas did whole rapid return business and weaned her off all sleep crutches e.g. lights on like blackpool etc. We have been really consistent with it and as soon as she is up, we put her back into bed immediately with no talking, back rubbing etc, completely no-nonsense approach but the she will still get out of bed at twice in the night and roam into our room. THe upshot is that none of us including her ever get more than 3 hours sleep in a row and it's taking its toll on everyone! It's been nearly 2 yrs since my last unbroken night!
Other than this, she's pretty much what you'd expect for a just three yr old. Intermittently charming, intermittently devil child.
Really hope someone can help!