Toddler badly behaved for me but not for other carers

[Lockdownbaby2021]

When I’m at home on my own with my nearly 2 year old I feel exhausted. He is very unhappy, wants to be held 24/7 and if I put him down he has a tantrum and ends up hurting himself. He doesn’t want to read or sit and play with a toy. If we go out he runs off away from me.

however he behaves amazingly at nursery and for his Grandmas. I look like an idiot when I tell my MIL how much it gets me down how he’s never happy. But at hers he laughs his head off, just happy to sit and play with toys and never wants to be picked up etc. I’ve seen it with my own eyes so I know it’s not my MIL lying…

I feel like such a sh*t mum. I’m scared to take him anywhere such as soft play as he throws massive tantrums when we have to leave but his grandmas can take him and he is fine.

what am I doing wrong ??

I must add.

he can be very loving, and we can have good days once in a blue moon..

Also when at home I do try dancing with him, singing nursery rhymes, playing with his toys with him. But he just goes ‘No’ and gets upset.

also I want to take him out for a walk in the pram however in this cold weather he refuses to wear a hat or gloves, he pulls them off and then gets cold and I also feel I get judged by other mums because he’s not wearing one..

sorry just need to get this off my chest

No help, but mine does this too. He's great for everyone including his Dad. I get the tantrums and the wailing. It's shit.,

Mine also has days where he won't wear pants, let alone a bloody coat. He doesn't seem to feel the cold at all! I remember my little brother being the same. He was half naked all year around and still wears shorts and tshirt in the winter outdoors