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Autism or developmentdelay? 23 months old.

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Jaydenmom12 · 11/01/2023 15:24

hi mums,
I have a son who is going to be 23 months old. i have few concerns about him. please help me to clarify.
he is busy active climbing running toddler.
he responds to his name all the time.
he makes good eye contact.
he loves playing with kids,aware of the surroundings, no sensory or sleep issues.
he can clap.
he can wave and only he will do occasionally but seldom.
Me and My husband are indians living in netherlands and we speak a indian language. he goes to day care where they speak dutch and he is exposed to tv shows (english).
We both are working and we are silent people and havent interacted much with my son.
he can talk 20 words to 30.. or 40.
example : ball, catch,kick,water, cuit for biscuit,cat, dog, cake,key, bannana, no, duck, ooo-aaahha (monkey noise),baby,pop,open etc etc.
he points to request/ show things.
my concerns are he mostly dont follow my instructions. I am confused if he is stubborn or didnt understand.
Example : If i ask him cup he will not give.
but if i say him give i will give water in your cup he will give.
If i ask him to handover his sock by "Give your sock" he will not give.
but if i say "Give i will wear it for you" then he will give.
he do understands "throw the ball" /"kick the ball". When he holds the ball when i say throw he says catch and throw to me, if i say kick the ball he kicks the ball to me.
if i ask him to pickup my shoe from next room he has done it once. but he didnt do usually.
he can feed the baby toy if i say go and feed the baby.
give baby a kiss and he will kiss.
i have seen him doing pretend plays like stirring , cooking , feeding baby etc.
I am not really worried about speech as i know his father spoke late at 2.5 yrs. i am worried about his understanding.
I am so confused if he understands or ignores me.
he calls everyone mama .mostly me. but his father also sometimes mama. he dont use dada. but he knows who dada is.. because when i say give to dada or go to dada he does that. so he knows who dada is but he dont say that word yet.

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Ahna65 · 11/01/2023 15:51

Hi, I'm also in the Netherlands, but English (so bilingual family too). My DD1 (3.5yo) is on the autism diagnosis pathway, expected too, and my DD2 (2.3yo) does not seem to be autistic but is delayed in her speech.

Like you say, doesn't sound like there is much to worry about on the speech. Also, name response and pointing is good. We have heard quite a lot that the bilingual set up sets things back. Also sounds like (as for my DDs) your son is exposed mostly to Dutch, so that probably will take him a bit longer to pick up your native language. We work too so I understand what you describe.

When he is 2yo (or a couple of months later) you will have a check up at consultatie bureau which includes a language assessment with the children's doctor. You can raise any concerns then and if they are concerned they will check up in a few months and then refer for logopedie (speech therapy).

Bernadett71 · 11/01/2023 17:53

How is he with food? Does he have limited tolerance to different textures? Does he tolerate when told ‘no’ , interrupted during play or being transitioned from one activity to another? Is he sensitive/ fussy wearing different fabric clothes? Does he like messy play, hands wet, noise? Does he have any repetitive behaviour or movements? These and many other things can be important indicators Of possibly being on the spectrum.

Jaydenmom12 · 11/01/2023 18:06

hi @Ahna65 thank yyou, yeah i am waiting for his 2 yr checkup from ggd.
hi @Bernadett71 i would say he have no repetitive behaviour, no sensory issues, he eats well. one thing that concerns me is he arches his back when someone lifts him while he plays or some stranger lifts him. arching his back and loosening his body so they would drop him down.

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Ahna65 · 13/01/2023 08:29

I find it hard to believe that you have spent any time at all reading about autism, indicators etc. Nothing you mention points to that and you specific rule out lots of things that do.

It is a little offensive to autistic people / parents of autistic children to have the thought process "something is going slowly / not so well with my DC's development" -> "autism"

Mohitss · 20/10/2023 15:58

Hey@Jaydenmom12 please update this thread

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