7 year old daughter friendship issues

[Gaberelli]

Hi all, first time poster here.

My daughter (nearly 7) is having a hard time since starting year 2 with friendships, she loves her friends and she will do anything for them, but doesn't seem to be able to play with them without it causing massive rows.

I think she's too domineering and tries to take over games, despite us talking to her about this for months, as we've tried to understand why 4 out of 5 days at school are 'bad days' and sometimes she comes back in tears.

She excels with school work and the teacher has no issues, its just the playground stuff that's a nightmare.

She is starting some ELSA thing this week which is one lunchtime a week, which i really dont know what it's all about so this may help.

She just seems totally oblivious, even when we have literally spelt it out to her on numerous occasions, that she is the cause of most of the arguments.

Does anyone have any experience of this? Could it be some kind of neurodevelopmental thing or something else?!

TIA

How does she do one on one eg if she has a friend home for a play date?

I'm not sure what ELSA is either, have you had a meeting with the school?

Thanks for replying - she's better - but still probably slightly domineering! jeez

Kind of, in the school entrance. They just said she can start this nurture thing and I've asked that she stays inside for a few weeks to read and stay away from the others for a bit - this is a minefield!

I would try and eavesdrop the next time she has a play date to see how she is with the child. Have you witnessed her being domineering?

If she’s completely inflexible and it doesn’t improve then it could be a neurodiversity, or it could just be her personality. I think it’s hard to tell at this age.

She could just be strong willed but my DD is like this and us being assessed for ASD. There were other signs though.