Any tips on getting 3 week old off me and into moses basket at night??? am i being too harsh/hasty?

[natsnix]

DS2 is just three weeks old, but at night only seems to want to sleep on me. I don't really mind but am worried about bad habits. He sleeps on his own during the day no probs but needs me at night. DD1 was no problem and settled well at night after a feed. Just wondering if anyone had any great tips or advice??

forget habits

he's only three weeks old

give him time

aw, enjoy it. I made my ds (12 months) sleep with me this morning, cos it's soooooo lovely. the time soon goes..

I know I know, it is soooo lovely, and i do enjoy waking up with him lying across me, but i guess am just worried that he might get too dependent on me, sorry maybe i'm just worrying over nothing!

he is totally dependent on you at this stage

I think for the first couple of months, they just want to be back inside the womb!

ds slept with us or near us for about 5 months. now he usually only sleeps in his cot, with his monkey. nowhere else will do!!

I dont think you will create bad habits - he is just too young for that.

Agree with emkana. There's so much nonsense spouted about habits that it can ruin your enjoyment of those precious early months. Fingers in ears when anyone mentions it. And keep on cuddling!

umm at ths risk of being shot down in flames i would say maybe try a dummy? but thats just if you are really desperate.. looking back now i wish i had cuddled more and co-slept with my ds at the start - would have been less hassle and he would have gotten used to our bed - now he is 14mo and teething and gets FURIOUS if we try to bring him into our bed!

yes ok, fingers are now firmly in ears...i'm going to enjoy him being so cute and diddy while i can!!

oh yes do, i know EVERYONE says that time goes so fast when they are little, but its so true! Can't believe my hulking toddler was a tiny newborn only 14 months ago!

I agree with all other posters. Go with your gut.

My DD went in her own bed from day one and not because I followed any books or anything daft, but because she was born CS and they put her in a cot at the side of the bed in hospital.

The one time I tried to keep DD next to me, on the nurses advice because she was restless I kept thinking I'd get in trouble. I think there must have been some drug or other in my system, cos I truly believed she wasn't my child when I woke up with her, so I quickly stuffed her back in the incubator.

My word, did she scream!! But I was so terrified of squashing her, I picked her up til she was asleep then put her back in the cot. So she's never shared my bed...except for the odd nights when DH was away, when she was much older.

In case I sound like an insensitive harpy, DD did live on my hips for the first 2 years though. I don't think I did much other than shower, shine and shampoo without her...and I was told that I was spoiling her SOOOO many times by my DM. But DD has turned into a well balanced, beautifully independent 7 year old treasure (well, today anyway...it's a good day!). She knows how much she's loved and she still likes a good cuddle (on a good day). I don't regret 'spoiling' mine for a minute, so always do what feels right to you and stuff anyone who makes you feel like you're wrong.

My DS is 7 months and I'm still nursing/cuddling him to sleep and then taking him into our bed when I go. DH and I both happy with this arrangement which is right for our family. I too say go with your instincts and don't let what others say push you into doing something that doesn't feel right

yes don't worry about habits - just is it comfortable for you? are you gettimg enough sleep? It's fine to have him in bed with you for as long as you both like it, but i personally would want him to get used to lying next to me instead.