3yo urinating on floor since sibling arrived

[SarahLHs]

I’m at my wits end so any help very welcome!

My daughter turned 3 in November. She’s been potty trained since June and had only had maybe 4-5 accidents since.

Second daughter arrived in November and everything was fine to start with but in the last few weeks my eldest has started wee on the floor. It’s definitely on purpose and an attention seeking thing. She doesn’t do it anywhere else, or if anyone is in the house except me and my husband. We’ve followed all the advice and ignored it when she does it except for changing her clothes and cleaning the mess. Also giving her massive praise when she does use the toilet and using a sticker chart. Some days are better than others but today she’s done it 3 times. 2 of which were while we were playing with her so wasn’t because she wasn’t getting attention at that moment.

Health visitor assured us that this is totally normal, especially for girls, and keep doing what we’re doing but I wondered if anyone has experience of this and has advice or could let me know how long it lasted for. Thanks.

I don't have any advice but our 3.5 year old also had a massive regression in behaviour when her little sister arrived. Refused to go to bed, refused to eat without sitting on anyone's lap, refused to get dressed, refused to put her coat and shoes on - it was very very hard. Lasted about three months I think and then started to improve slowly.

Just keep paying her loads of attention so that she knows she's still loved would be my advice. I made sure I played with her whilst the baby napped so she had a good stretch of time with just me and her playing together. A lot of our playing had to done in whispers because number is a contact napper but it was the best I could do to try to meet everyone's needs.

We had a similar age gap and had a massive regression too. Particularly when DC1 realised the baby was a permanent feature.

Hang in there OP. It will get better

Thanks both. It's encouraging that this is normal but sometimes feels like it will go on forever! I'll carry in doing what I'm doing and hope it works itself out eventually!