Child disruptive and hit another child

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Hi there

I would really appreciate some help
I'm a full time working mum of 2. I have little spare time but give everything I can to my children.
My eldest is in year 1
In reception she stated well but second term in I was told she wasn't listening and also got on the "sad face" a few times -the naughty spot basically
We didn't have many play dates as we have a nanny but we had a few. Towards the end of the year a teacher called
Me and said a friendship she had struck up with another girl was becoming problematic for
My daughter. My daughter will easily be led astray and the girl was telling her to do naughty things-girl A for the sake of this post!
We then had our nanny leave and due to another nanny starting and then becoming unwell, have now had 5 nannies in the last year.

We were not invited on a single
Play date last term and those my daughter was friends with she stopped mentioning and only ever mentions this girl A. At parents evening the teacher told
Me she separated them. And I know another girls parents then complained because her daughter is now getting in trouble because girl A won't leave her alone and is telling her to do naughty things
I totally btw appreciate my daughter needs to learn what is right or wrong! It's not about girl A

I have organised a birthday party for my daughter in 2 weeks but only 4 people of 12 said yes
I asked one mum direct by messaging her and suggested a play date.
She wrote back that her daughter says mine pushed and punched her, she supports her daughter and will not be coming to our house or party
I've been so upset
I immediately responded I'm so sorry and has she got any more information, do the school know? She has read it but not replied.

I want to clarify my daughter has never hit or bitten or anything
She is very sweet and kind
But she is spirited and energetic
This girl who she apparently hit is very well behaved and lovely
I'm so confused
How would
You handle this?
For what it's worth my daughter was bitten by a boy in her class last term and I was called immediately and I. Saw them talk to the mother after school
So I don't understand why the school haven't called me
I'm seeing all the mums this afternoon at a party and feeling really self conscious
Haven't yet asked daughter as she is at club
Any help??

Ot sounds as though your DD is having some social difficulties and you need to speak to the school to find out exactly what's going on.

Thank you
It gets worse
As I found out she also hit that girl
Witb a white board over the head "to get her attention" and pushed her

Would
You recommend a therapist? I'm surprised school never noticed anything

I heard more from her that she also pushed the girl again in the lunch que and also hit her with a pad of paper
And won't tell
Me why she did it

She said it was to get her attention?
Would you get your child to a therapist? I don't know what to do
Or where I find a therapist

I think the first thing to do is to talk to her Teacher and ask for SENCO to have a look at her. Sounds like she's really struggling, poor lamb.

Thank you
What sort of senco needs do you think? She is coping in other areas in the classroom

I think SENCO just needs to have a look at how she's coping in the classroom, at playtime and at lunch.

We haven't had any other problems with other children although the other child who hits my daughter and won't leave her alone (wants to be her "best friend" but also hits
My daughter if she doesn't do what she says)
I've complained to the school about it
They recognise it's an issue and said there isn't anything they can do to help
In the playground when this girl
Makes a bee line for her
My point isn't to blame this other girl
But to highlight that my daughter was never like this through nursery or pre school
It just started the last term