DS3 has told my wife on several occasions recently that I’ve hurt him (obviously I don’t). He’ll say something like “I don’t love Daddy” and when she asks him why he says “because Daddy kicks and punches me” or “because Daddy always hurts me”
It’s been upsetting, but I’ve been coping by telling myself that it’s just a phase, we’ve also had stern words with him about never lying about somebody hurting him. The trouble now is that he’s started crying when I pick him up from nursery and saying “I didn’t want you, I wanted Mummy/Nanny”. I’m really worried that they’re going to ask him why he doesn’t want me to collect him and he’ll say something along the lines of “Daddy hurts me”, and then they’ll call socials.
Also, he’s recently been showing more violent behaviour (at home, never at nursery); again I was hoping it was a phase but now I’m worried that nursery will think he’s acting out because of difficulties at home and will want to get socials involved.
I’ve heard that nurseries won’t usually have concerns unless there’s a strange injury; DS3 hasn’t had any but my wife dropped him off this morning with a big cut and bruise on her head after he threw a biscuit tin at her. We explained what had happened but are they going to think we’re not parenting properly by allowing this to happen? Or alternatively, are they going to think we’re lying and that I’ve hurt my wife as well as our son?
Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice at all? Much appreciated in advance, thank you.