Does my 9 week old like me/know I’m his mum

[Piggysmalls22]

Sorry if this sounds completely pathetic but it’s getting me down how I don’t feel like my 9 week old is bonded to me.

Has anyone else experienced these feelings? Am i being too impatient I’m not sure.

He is a massive crier always upset Colic and Reflux. When I interact with him he seems to look away or get upset, when I pick him up he cries as well then settles.

His dad gets occasional smiles out of him but I’ve never experienced anything other than tears or glares. I am a stay at home mum and do most of the day time feeding and caring his dad does night time.

I practically wear him to help with the crying I still feel like he doesn’t enjoy being around me.

You're his safe space so he doesn't have to smile for you @Piggysmalls22

It sounds as though the poor lad is miserable.

What have you tried for the reflux so far?

Having a silent reflux baby is incredibly hard, my first cried what felt like all the time so I feel for you. I felt like she didn't know I was her Mummy until three months or so. It wasn't a lot of fun if I'm honest but they do grow out of reflux and by even 4.5 months DD1 was super smiley so I'd say just hang in there. It will come.

One thing that helped me was knowing that they look away from you when the emotion is too much for them. It's not rejection, it's being overwhelmed by whatever emotion they are feeling so don't take it personally. My second DD will smile at people and then hide her face away from them as if the joy is just too much so it happens with positive emotions too.