Seriously depressed with my 4 year old unrecognisable daughter

[Hollie101118]

Hey mums,

I just need a bit of moral support and reassurance here because I feel like I'm majorly failing at being a mum and I don't know what to do!

My daughter ever since she was a baby has always made herself sick when she has gotten really upset. Over the past year or so, this has really curbed and almost stopped I would say unless she is really distraught which to be honest, she never usually gets so distraught to make herself that sick.

However over the past 2 weeks with her (she turned 4 in November) it has been absolute HELL. She has regressed back to trying to make herself sick again but really badly. The problem is she does not actually voice anything.

She can become distraught and when I say distraught I mean like screaming at me and my partner, crying her eyes out sobbing inconsolable trying to make herself sick and it tonight was literally because we moved her from the car into the house and she just screamed and screamed.

when we ask her to talk to us so we can help her she doesn't talk, she doesn't actually say anything she just screams. When we try to hug her, she pushes us off of her. She's started screaming in our faces and honestly, this doesn't even feel like my daughter at the moment.

I am exhausted as it doesn't matter what we do, no matter how much we try to calm her down she just will not calm down.

She has been quite under the weather for the past couple of weeks and she hasn't eaten a full meal for a week so I'm sure this has a part to play but she has never ever ever behaved like this ever, until now.

I am pregnant at the moment and whilst I thought it might be a factor, she doesn't talk much about the baby as I don't think she understands yet the concept of him arriving and I don't use the baby as an excuse if that makes sense, everything is still the same but I wonder if subconsciously this has something to do with it?!

Any advice or help is hugely welcomed as I am exhausted from trying to deal with this behaviour which is completely out of nowhere and something I've never experienced before in my life.

Thanks x

I'd take her to the GP to rule out any physical cause, like throat or ear infections first @Hollie101118.

Well my just turned four year old does the same, not the throwing up but the distraught screaming without communication too. And I don't know what to do to solve it either. I think in her case it seems to be related to transitions so leaving the house can be a problem for us although I don't know why - we do five minute warnings of going out, help with shoes on, we try games so who can get their shoes and coat on first, checking is anyone hungry or thirsty first and nine times out of ten it still results in crying. It makes me very sad too.

In our case we have a very little number two on the scene and my hunch is that it's related, it definitely started whilst I was still pregnant. I'm just piling on the love and affection and time on number 1 in the hope it reassures her she's still loved and hoping it will pass.