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3 year old hitting/lashing out

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Anne191119 · 26/12/2022 07:47

Not sure of the best way to deal with this as what we're doing currently doesn't seem to be having any effect so any advice would be great.

DS is in general a good kid (VERY active and spirited but nothing wrong with that) but if we have to say no/take a toy way for any reason/get him to do something he doesn't want to when he's plying then he immediately lashes out and will hit or kick. We've been consistently and calmly putting him on the naughty step or in his bedroom as soon as he does anything like this for a few minutes then explain it's not ok to hit ever and quick sorry and cuddle then back to normal but it doesn't seem to be curbing it and it's been a good few weeks now we've kept it up. Things like taking toys away doesn't really seem to do anything either cause he's happy to just go off and play something else and he has A LOT of options 😅 also he'll deliberately wet himself on the naughty step a lot of times so I have to sort him out and put him back 🤦🏻‍♀️

Just something I'd like to nip in the bud, I know he's obviously still very young and it's normal toddler behaviour to lash out but I'd like to be sure I'm doing the best thing to help him get round it. I feel like he's trying to gain control or something because he deliberately ignores me when I talk to him or ask him questions quite a lot recently too but as soon as I ask anything he's interested in (would too like a biscuit? Shall we go to the park?) I get an instant reply 🙄

Anyway any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks

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PritiPatelsMaker · 26/12/2022 11:21

One thing I would suggest is packing away a lot of the toys. I don't mean getting rid of them but limit what's around to 6 maximum. They can often get really overwhelmed and if you're taking toys away and he's got plenty of other things to play with, it's just not going to work.

Does he go to childcare yet? What do they say about the hitting?

Anne191119 · 26/12/2022 19:43

@PritiPatelsMaker It's deffo something we've not tried! He goes to nursery twice a week but he doesn't hit anyone else at all, it's just with me & his dad because he's used to us I suppose? I don't think he'd dare do it anywhere else 😅

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herbaltea21 · 26/12/2022 22:36

I've just found myself in here to make a post about my / year old hitting and lashing out.
I really don't know the answer. My son is in a really intense tantrum phase atm. If he doesn't get his own way or I leave his eye sight he has a massive meltdown and throw a everything around.
It's so challenging isn't it?!!

PritiPatelsMaker · 26/12/2022 22:39

This article from Dr Sears might help you both too Flowers

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