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10 month old super clingy

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mrskcam · 25/12/2022 13:48

My 10 month old daughter has overnight become extremely clingy. I'm talking to the point that every second she's awake she has to be touching me or she's in full meltdown. She won't even sit next to me, it has to be on me. I have bruises and scrams all over me where she grips onto my skin so tightly, it's like she's trying to get back inside me. I can't think why this has suddenly started?

She used to go to nursery Mon - Fri and she loved it, really developed well however the nursery wasn't up to standard so we pulled her out and are awaiting her starting a new nursery in 2 weeks time.

Also about 2 months ago she started with water wobbles with the bath. Screaming in terror anytime she even sees the bath, full or empty. She won't even go in with me, she just cries and shakes until we leave the bathroom and instantly when it's out of sight she stops crying. I think the water wobbles coincided with when we stopped using the angel care bath seat as she was too big but she wasn't confident enough to sit in the bath and is now terrified.

She sleeps and eats well, has 5 teeth, another 2 coming through but is generally dealing well with it. She can crawl and is trying so hard to stand although lately she's not done much of either and just wants to sit in my lap. She's smiley and happy enough if I'm holding her constantly but she works herself up so much anytime she's not touching me/bathtime - don't know if they're connected?

I don't know where I've gone wrong. I hate seeing her so upset over these things.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 26/12/2022 00:25

If you don't think anything has happened to her, it could just be extreme separation anxiety in which case the best way to deal with it is to let her be with you as much as she wants too.

Not sure on the bath though, has anyone else bathed her recently? Have you tried a shallow bath in the kitchen sink?

mrskcam · 26/12/2022 00:58

@PritiPatelsMaker I'm going to try the sink & also the shower. She's had new bath toys for Xmas so I am going to put them in a bowl of water to try and get her to associate them with fun before putting them in the bath so hopefully she'll make the link. I think the bath thing was she wasn't great at sitting and felt unsafe and slippy in the bath and now she's scared herself. I also have a bath mat to make it more safe when she does go back in the bath.

The clingyness I was wondering if it might have something to do with being in nursery full time and then being back home with me full time instead? She will be going to a new nursery in 2 weeks time which I am hoping will help her with these issues. I feel the separation anxiety is preventing us from getting her over her water wobbles at this current moment too.

So hard not to worry too much over these things as I know a lot of these behaviours are probably normal and are just phases that will pass but as a parent I think it's so easy to feel like you're going wrong somewhere or that your child is suddenly "not their self " if they change in the slightest.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 26/12/2022 01:05

I feel the separation anxiety is preventing us from getting her over her water wobbles at this current moment too.

Another option would be to get in the bath with her?

So hard not to worry too much over these things as I know a lot of these behaviours are probably normal and are just phases that will pass but as a parent I think it's so easy to feel like you're going wrong somewhere or that your child is suddenly "not their self " if they change in the slightest

And that's parenthood I'm afraid Flowers

mrskcam · 26/12/2022 09:42

@PritiPatelsMaker me bathing with her is the only way I can wash her at the moment. It hasn't solved the problem, she still cries, just not as full freaked out as she would be without me

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