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Daughters friend seems obssessed in her

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Spename84 · 10/12/2022 20:13

My daughters friend seems completely obssessed in her. My daughter is 9 her friend is 10. Her friend lives around the corner from us and she knocks every single day for her to play out which is fine I d rather her play than go on iPad. However, she has now got my phone number off her mam (my daughter doesn’t have a phone) and is phoning me at least 4 or 5 times a day if we are out asking when we’ll be home. When we get home she is waiting at her window and comes straight out. If they have a little argument she phones constantly until my daughter speaks to her and puts sorry drawings through the letterbox etc and then messaging saying she said sorry will she play out. If my daughter says she doesn’t want to play or after a few hours says she wants to just come in she goes on and on trying to get her to play. She offers her toys, sweets anything to keep her playing with her. Should I be worried about this behaviour or is it normal? My daughter has said she gets annoyed at her going on and on at her. Once she had gone to play at her house and her friend had been a bit too rough with her and she wanted to come home and her friend blocked her way out and demanded to know why and my daughter had to push her way out. Her friends mam was there but said she was too busy to get involved. What should I do? Is it normal?

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PritiPatelsMaker · 11/12/2022 10:01

It does sound toxic. When she calls when you are out, I'd send a message back saying DD is out with us, she will see you another day then put your phone on silent.

Make sure that DD knows that she doesn't have to play with this girl just to keep her happy. If DD wants to stay home, without her being there, that's fine.

Does DD have any other friends? Do they both go to the same school? Are they both in the same school year?

Itsoktogiveup · 12/12/2022 21:33

It sounds unhealthy yes ☹️

I wouldn’t be putting up with constant calls from the kid that’s for sure. Can’t you text the mum and say look I’m not happy you gave my phone number to a child please can you stop her calling me or I’ll have to block the number.

The mum is clearly using your daughter and you as free childcare.

I’d be being ruder to the girl re “We are busy today”

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