sleeping in our bed at 4yrs

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My dd aged 4 years has been sleeping with me and dh on and off for the last six months. She goes to sleep fine in her room and then appears at about 1am and climbs into bed with us. When I ask her why she says that she feels like a cuddle. Should we try to persuade her not to? She has always been a good sleeper and she doesn't really disturb us but I don't want to build up any problems in the future.

mine did this
I would subtley get up and go and sleep in his bed and then he stopped without fuss.

Of course, having said that we all know what's going to be tugging at my duvet and then elbowing me in the tits at 1 am

My dd2 does this. If I want to put a stop to it then I take her straight back to her bed and after about three nights of doing that she won't come to our bed for weeks. She came to our bed the night before last and the nght before that but I just let her sleep with us and she didn't try it again last night. She tends to do it more when she isn't dresses very warmly.

My ds has always done this. Every night we put him in his own bed, and every morning he's sandwiched in the middle of us.

I love it, personally .. and I don't worry about problems in the future. I can't see him doing it when he's eighteen!

Yep, sure enough....
but ohhhhhhh so cuddly and warm [smle]

suzywong: "Of course, having said that we all know what's going to be tugging at my duvet and then elbowing me in the tits at 1 am"

Your husband? It's not the most romantic seduction technique I've read about. Ask for some chocolates too.

I don't think you're storing up any problems for the future. Margot Sunderland (author of the Science of Parenting) reccomends co-sleeping up to the age of 5.

Now if I could only teach DS (2.3) to come into our bed on his own and lie down quietly without disturbing, I would be a happy woman.

My friend sleeps with all 4 of her kids (boys are 11, 9, 7 and girl is 4) in her bed and her husband sleeps in the boy's bunk bed or on the couch...don't get to that stage!

My ds(3 3/4) does this and I give him a time limit for his cuddle then put him back to bed. I don't sleep when he's in out bed cause he's too wriggly, but I'm not turning down an unexpected middle of the night warm and sleep smelling cuddle!

Thats never right how big is her bed?

My kids do this

DD (3.8) goes through phases of it ... I suppose twice this week is about average

DS (7) probably does it once every couple of months

I love it

have never stopped them

My dd is 6 and she does this. When she gets in the bed she's cold. I think she wakes up without covers on and is cold and so jumps in with us.

I don't think it's a problem tbh, I don't notice most of the time. DS2 used to do it too, but he doesn't anymore. Perhaps they grow out of it?

my children have learned from an early age to sleep ramrod straight and not to bother me or its straight back to their own beds