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Tantrums. When to worry

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teapotfullofsquash · 05/12/2022 09:14

First off I want to say I'm going to ring the health visitor today for advice, but I'd like to have a chat in general about 3 year old behaviour and when enough is enough.

My son has just turned 3 (youngest sibling so not my first) He is absolutely I relentless and getting worse.

He firstly hates wearing clothes. It's a daily battle to get him to stay wearing his clothes.

Tantrums last well over an hour. If he doesn't get his own way or things aren't how he wants them it's never ending.

He will purposefully break things and throw anything he can find. He will tell you "I'm going to break this"

He cannot manage a school run without something setting him off. It's a daily occurrence. I have nobody to have him while I do the school run either.
Example this morning someone pressed the button the for the traffic lights and he wanted to.This caused him to have a meltdown, refuse to walk and then scream the whole way to and back from school.

He dosent sit in a pushchair as he can unbuckle himself. If I carry him while in a tantrum I can just about hold him, sometimes he kicks and smacks. So I just basically hold his hand and walk him along while he screams "get off me"

Everything seems to set him off and as he's getting older its getting worse. When he is in a good mood he is the best little boy. He has a lovely kind manner and is very clever. You can have a little conversation with him, he asks lots of questions, loves reading books, happy to go out walking etc.

But the tantrums are absolutely wearing me out.

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Bakinglovingmum · 05/12/2022 18:17

I'm worried about my 18 month old son as when he takes a tantrum it is not normal anymore. He will go find a cupboard door or hard floor and bash his head on it several times so hard until he cries, this happens when he does not get his own way or like what we have done. Also he loves to really bite me and finds it funny when I yelp out in pain. I have tried to ignore it and also tried to get him to stop these things but it just seems to get worse. Also he has this strange obsession to knocking the juice bottles down everytime he walks past them plus my daughters wellies. I really don't know what to do anymore. Any advice would help thanks x

PritiPatelsMaker · 05/12/2022 22:53

@teapotfullofsquash did you manage to speak to the HV? Was she supportive at all?

Does he go to Childcare at all? Have they raised any concerns?

teapotfullofsquash · 08/12/2022 11:55

@PritiPatelsMaker I did speak to the HV and her only suggestion was a time out chair. And how he must be bored 😑 he dosent start nursery till September 2023 because of when he gets his nursery hours and when the school nursery do their sept intake. After Christmas we are going to try the mums and toddlers class as everyone there has witnessed him in the playground and have encouraged me to bring him along and see how he gets on

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