Anyone else love their child but hate being a mother?

[goodmorningsunny]

I always thought I'd love being a mum. Then I became one. I love my daughter, I'm so proud of her and she is my entire world.

But she's 11 months and ive spent the last 1.5 hours putting her to bed. She's vomited up all her dinner and scratched my chest quite badly. She has a chest infection and is teething so refuses to nap and gets angry and smashes her head against the side of the cot when I lay her down to sleep. In a nutshell, she's hard work. Her tantrums really test my patience.

I miss my old freedom so badly. She's a car screamer so even popping to town is horrifically stressful. I'd say she spends between 60-80% of the day having meltdowns and screaming. I know it's not her fault, I know I should be better at this but she just won't cooperate with me. I know it's a phase and I won't remember how hard this was soon.

I desperately need a break but I hate being away from her. I want her to grow up and mature but I also want to cherish her little moments forever.

This is emotionally and physically draining. She's breastfed so I still feel like my body is hers, not mine.

Please tell me it gets easier.

Awww hugs it sound like her teething and infection is horrible 😔

She also sounds like a little diva, I have one myself and yes 'testing' is an understatement of the century. And her age and stage won't help right now bless her. But it does get easier and my diva is a mummies girl. I hate having to pull away from her hugs when they are too tight and she will tell me 'mummy you beauty' 'mummy your hair look BEAUTY' - shouting in my face 😂😂😂 mine is 3 going on 13 at times but can tame her more now! She's going to be a perfect teenager..... I say that as I hope if I say it enough times it'll come true 😂🙏🙏

Hugs to you. Entirely normal feelings!! Being a parent is the best and harder job in the world. Mine is now 4.5. I try to gentle parenting but am a shouty biatch atm... we all have our moments. Go easy on yourself:) I am on the verge of trying to set up a mother's retreat. Nothing but a cosy space where we can just be alone with others who "get it"!!

'Hardest' not harder

It gets easier.

My eldest is 2, my youngest is 7 months. He's hard work, she's a dream. But he's got easier every month. I love being a mum, I love my kids so so much.

But actually mumming, day in and day out, watching bloody cocomelon for five minutes peace, having soggy eaten oranges shoved in your face that you have to pretend to eat and being climbed on all the time is testing. And no one gets that except other mums (or dads if they're primary carers).

Lots of hugs. I feel the same, and although I love my kids more than anything, I do question whether I made the right decision in having children. I can only tell you that it does get easier. Hang in there and make sure you are getting lots of breaks from being a mum, even if it's just coffee with a friend once a fortnight.