DD had recently started putting her hands on her hips and talking 'down her nose' to me and DH when we dont comply with her wishes, for instance....
DD: Can I have a sweetie
Me: After dinner if you eat well
DD: well if you dont let me have a sweet I'll take your films away
Me: take your hands off your hips, and I said if you eat your dinner you can have a sweet. Why do you have to get bossy?
DD: Well if I dont get a sweet you can go to your room cos you've been naughty
and on we go
When written I do see it as quite funny, but in reality she is just so assertive. I dont mind her conversation, and she is only imposing control methods over me that DH and I impose over her like taking things away for bad behaviour and sending to her room etc.
It's the attitude and hands on hips thing that drives me potty because I know she has copied her BF from pre-school, which her keyworker has told me is the reason behind it. DD is a lovely older sister to DS, but her BF is the youngest of 3 girls and I know she probably has to raise her voice and be assertive to get heard over her 2 older sisters, but DD doesnt need to do it and no matter what we've tried we cant stop it. It's just so unlike her and she comes accross as a right little madam, which I hate to see.
I live in dread of what habits she'll start to pick up when she starts school in September.