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Daughter won't sleep in her room

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MrsC20 · 25/11/2022 13:20

It's been ongoing for a while but my daughter who is almost 3 won't sleep in her bed or in her room. She will easily fall asleep in the living room but not her own one even if myself or hubby is in there with her.
You can take her through to her room once she has fallen asleep but she won't settle down in her own room.
We tried settling her in there last night but took us 2 hours until we decided it was a lost cause and that she won't settle when she is that upset. She was screaming for treats and just general annoyance at the situation. It's like she doesn't like the bedroom!
We are starting to put more boundaries for her but feel she is pushing them but at the same time think there is more to it! I wonder whether to perservere with the new routine or just give it a break for a bit. We do generally co-sleep so she is definitely not a fan of her own bed!
Any advice appreciated.

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problembottom · 25/11/2022 14:47

I always find it takes about three nights to change something like this. I stopped DD coming into our bed every single night, she was 3 at the time, by telling her what was going to happen, then resettling her a million times and comforting her when she got upset. Getting no sleep basically and not giving in. Once you're doing it you can't go back.

We really wanted to do it as she was coming into our bed earlier and earlier and we were losing our evenings. By night three or four she was fine and it has made us much happier.

PritiPatelsMaker · 26/11/2022 00:12

One thing that might help if you are used to co-sleeping is to sleep with her bedding for a couple of nights before you put it on her bed.

Their sense of smell is so strong and right now her bed smells totally different to your bed.

Also agree with problem. Sometimes it just takes time.

NoKnit · 27/11/2022 20:36

Can't give advice but just wanted to say there is absolutely nothing wrong with this and it isn't a problem to fix, just let them co sleep. One day it will stop and you won't even notice and then you feel sad. It's totally normal for families to all sleep together and your child is still so little

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