I'm disabled and children won't help with housework

[Tallikumiko]

I have 4 kids, 10/8/7 and 4. My eldest daughter is my registered carer. My husband, who I was originally caring for before I got ill now works more that full time to keep us financially afloat.
None of the kids will help with housework and I just don't know how to get through to them. It's been 2 years like this and they just don't care. Myself and my husband have done everything we can think of to make them see it through our eyes. The school, family, friends, social services and other agencies have all told the children they need to help more but they still refuse.
I don't know what my question is if I'm honest, more that I just needed to get it out of my brain. It's soul destroying sitting in a house surrounded by trash and dirty laundry and not being able to do anything about it.

I’m so sorry OP, but they are still little. What jobs do you expect them to do, can you make a list for them that’s easy to follow?

We've asked that they rinse thier bowls etc after meals and clean up trash they leave everywhere.

There's tons of other stuff that needs doing which is overwhelming for me let alone them. But they won't even do the bare minimum to help.

Does you eldest have caring responsibilities already?
I’d break it down into one simple task each and try and build it up. Or turn it into a game, timer on for 10 minutes and see what they can tidy up in the living room. Etc. It must be tough for all of you if both parents need care.

She does, she bathes the younger kids and makes sure I eat etc. It's not her so much because I know she already has more responsibilities than she should at that age. Making it a game worked for a while but not so much anymore. They want to be bribed with stuff we can't afford and even then they can't be arsed. It's so frustrating

It' a lot of responsibility to drop on to children, especially as they need to learn these things first. It can get over whelming for adults it's going to be more so for children.
Can you do what you can, say a small section of a room while your children help with the other parts of the room?

Be there and explain step by step how to do the laundry?

Remember the bare-minimum is better than nothing at all.