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7 year old keeps grinding herself onto things! Help!

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yellowroses7 · 20/11/2022 20:23

Hi, my 7 year d daughter has been doing this off n ok since she was 5 at home but now in desperate need of suggestions as have gone through everything we can think of to try and stop her doing this.
And now she's doing it in her class most days ! when seated at a desk tenses her body up. (arms locked on table squeezing her legs together red in the face!). Apparently it gives her a nice sensation between her legs and thats why she does it. I know this is normal for some girls and they don't understand but
It happens more times at school (obviously because shes at a desk all day) and her teacher(male) is constantly asking her to stop. She came out of her school last week and started crying saying she hates her teacher as he calls her out on it but just says her name " oh Amy" and doesn't say anything else and then she stops so she is very aware of what she's doing! I've tried for months asking her if everything is ok,telling her it's a private thing for the house and not school as people won't want to see that. The last thing I want to do is go into the school and talk to her teacher as I don't want her embarrassed & obviously they are aware as her teacher sees this! She says she's always last in getting her work finished as she's doing this ! And said she cannot stop 😣Very worried that this behavior will continue and it will get to a point when the other children will notice and start making rude comments. Has anyone else had this sort of thing happen ? I'm wondering if I say nothing and don't make a big deal about it & she does grow out of it but praying she doesn't get picked on by other kids or go to her teacher and see if they can help distract her in class? Anyway any feedback would be great. Many Thanks

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Arya89 · 21/11/2022 20:32

Hello,

I’m a primary school teacher here and it sounds like you are doing the exact right thing explaining it’s a private thing she should only do at home. Though it’s a pretty normal thing among children this age, last time I came across a girl who really couldn’t stop it was because she had a hormonal imbalance that made her hit puberty early, have you considered this?

I’d definitely try talking to your daughter’s school and asking them to handle this situation in a way that doesn’t draw attention or make her upset. Distracting her with a task or something she xan fidget with it providing her with a different seating arrangement sounds like a better solution than calling her out.

Hope this helps!

happygolucky42 · 22/11/2022 18:16

I'm a primary school teacher. I had this and the mum took her to the dr and she had an infection. Maybe worth addressing incase a UTI.

happygolucky42 · 22/11/2022 18:17

I agree with the advice from the teacher before me.

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