4 year old daughter possible autism/ashbergers?

[ibiza1]

hi everyone looking some advice i have just joined and i must say this site is great for info!

my daughter is 4 and she was always extremely shy and a bit eccentric if thats the right word.

anyway she started nursery in sep last and in nov it was brought to our attention that she had some issues, mainly she had not socialised with other kids in nursery, she always plays on her own, she loves dora the explorer and she alays say swiper no swiping and is scared of him its a bit unreal, but we av limited that programme, and other traits our that she is sensitive to noise she will walk round with hands over her ears when she hears other kids or children crying, the hoover on a sacry bit on a cartoon, just all different noises that shoudl not be that sensitive for her.

she communcates with me and her dad very little enough to get her needs across but i would ask her if she had a good day at nursery and she squeals YES and that it

getting her into nursery is a challenge she clings to me and would roll in a ball on the floor when the tacher comes to get her.

she is in her own wee world a lot of the time and i repeat the same thing over and over again b4 she realises what i want/need her to do.
teacher says that if all the other kids and staff went out of the room she would not notice?

teacher says she has problems concentrating and does not take direction.

also said she is very advanced in some areas
more recently they our concerned that she has got a bit rough they said she was never like that

we have just got a referral for her next wednesday for an assesment,

Anyone have any advice?

Hi Ibiza
No real advice but well done for sorting out a referral. I assume its to a paediatrician or some such, they'll certainly be able to help. My neice is going along the same route, her docs think she's is on the aspergers spectrum and many of the things you describe ring true for her also. On the positive side there are many many ways to help and support her and it certainly doesn't have to be something that will limit her in later life.
Hope all goes well next week
phee

I'm sorry she is having difficulties. Assesments are a good thing because she will get the help she needs - IF she needs any.

Many of the things you mention could apply to children who are neurologically typical, including my DD!

Good luck for Wednesday.

yeh at least i should have an idea bcus they have mentionned sn school which is fine bcus at least she would get the help she needs

when u say neurologically typical what do u mean?

thanks

Sorry, don't have any advice for you. I have a friend at M&T who is in exactly the same position with her son, he is a bit younger. But describes the same thing. Sadly, she is just cross with the playgroup, but i have thought there a problem with this little lad (who i think is just lovely and im quite fond of him) for a while, i daren't say anything to her though. Thats besides the point though.

I just wanted to say that you might find a better response on the Special Needs section of the forum. There are lots of mums with children who are either autistic or have aspergers.

Also, just because she has these little issues doesnt mean there is a problem but i am pleased to see you are looking into it, that way, if there is a problem you can set the ball rolling in getting DD some extra help.

Welcome to mumsnet, it is a great site.

XXX

hi pheebe thanks for message, yeh she is being referred to a multi disciplinary team so should have everybody there she needs to look at her?

what age is your neice

where is the sn section?

well our nursery to be fair is great at one point my daugher went rigid and kicked out and hit teacher, and she was ok, she said dont worry we just want to help her

ta
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'Neurologically typical' is a pc way of saying 'normal'

I have a DS with Special Needs/Disabilities and loath the word 'normal' for referring to children who do not have any SN. But there are not many ways of alluding to being 'normal' without actually saying the word.

ok got you now thanks

ibiza, did you find the sn bit?

yes thank u

x

Hi Again
She'll be 4 in a few weeks so similar age. She is also under the care of a multidiciplinary team, not sure what that comprises though. She has other health issues as she was a 29weeker so sees lots of people but is still our beautiful little girl none-the-less
Good luck
phee x

I have a goddaughter who was diagnosed with Aspergers in Infants and she has done really well since, has just needed a bit of extra help from people who understood what the world looked like to her.

thats interesting cory what age was your goddaughter? a lot of people in uk anyway tell me that it wont be diagnosed until they r 6 or 7? WHY WHO KNOWS