DD8 always plays up when he have visitors - wont share, hogs snacks and has outbursts. DD6 will happily engage and play with visitors children and talk with them but DD8 will deliberately make the situation uncomfortable.
Tonight another child ‘tried to help’ with a fort she was building. I agree this child should have asked to help but DD8 went absolutely mental even though the other child apologised, hid in an electric heated rack, was given several warnings to come out (as its dangerous) and I ended up having to lift the rack off her. Then i had to carry her, screaming to her room to explain to her that she cant behave like this and she had to spend 15 minutes in her room to cool down. I then reintegrated her until 20 minutes later she started another fight with her sister, then swore and was sent to her room again.
She has loudly shouted (the parents are our friends too) that she didn’t like having people in our house. The thing is she is like this a lot, really unwelcoming and quite rude to visitors. She does this when we go out too which i have out down to anxiety.
I have told her she can go to her room if she doesnt want to socialise, given her treats beforehand and promises for the next day but it doesnt work.
Is there anything else i can do or does anyone have any more tips? I am beginning to resent her as its impacting mine and my husbands social life and that of her sister and I feel like i should be able to invite who i like into my home.