ds(8) has just been playing on the front with his friends, hes just come in to go through to the back to 'get his ball' i was angry about him not taking his shoes off and walking mud through my hall and kitchen so i waited by the backdoor for him so i could tell him to get his shoes off, when he came in from the back court he was suprised to see me standing there, he was looking shifty and trying to stick something up his jumper, turned out to be a couple of peices of newspaper, then i realised he wasnt looking for a ball at all, no, he was out getting paper coz his friends where gonna light a fire on the field ]shock] he said he was just gonna "put the paper in' but i am very disgusted that he would even engage in this behaviour as i havent brought him up this way, i told him i was very angry and disapointed in him (i didnt shout, i think in these situations calmness is the key) i told him i never expected this of him and i dread to think what else he gets up to, i ahve sent him to his room coz "i cant bear to be in the same room as such a liar" hes very upset and crying begging me to forgive him i hate seeing him cry, it breaks my heart. He's also begging me not to tell his dad (his dad is stricter than me) but ive told him ive got to, have i done right?