26 months old not responding to name

[HeyMom]

my son used to responds to his name then lately became difficult to respond. He is fussy most of the time. He doesnt point also to things that he wants, he just do hand leading. Most of the time he would wake up at 5am to cry for reason I dont know. He speaks few words and most of it I think he copies to his 3 year old brother. I saw the pedia yesterday and told me that he is high chance of having autism but advised to wait and see until January if there would be improvement once we remove screen time.

I struggled lately because of always changing my nanny. I worked 12 hrs a day and most of the time nanny would turn the tv on to wntertain my kods as she dont know them yet to stop them from crying.

Aside from above mentioned concerns, he is a picky eater and he loves to play with lids and still put toys to his mouth.

Anybody experience the same but your child is not autistic?

Having same issues. DD turned 29 months only responds to name 50% of the time. I have spoken to health visitor and they are going to refer to hearing test and paediatrician. Any update on yours? Xx Hope you are coping well!!

@HeyMom how is ur son?? Any updates would be appreciated

@Mummy0307 any updates on your DCs progress? My son knows his name as he points to himself in the mirror when asked "where is his name" his understanding is also good but he does not respond to his name most of the times. Especially in nursery

DD, responds to her name now however when is focusing on something she will ignore you completely. She acts quite normal at home, gives eye contact and follow commands, when asked what is your name she tells her name. She Communicates to go outside or to watch iPad. Brings TV remote and says “TV”. She brings her shoes and brings mine or daddy shoes if she really wants to go outside. However, when outside, she doesn’t communicate with me effectively like at home, or if we have friends gathering, she is a different person, mostly in her own world singing nursery rhymes. Only rarely looks at the other person to say hi and bye or to even acknowledge their existence. She is very good at ignoring. She is very selective, I wonder if it is a sensory thing.

As lately, if any scary cartoons comes in the TV she covers her ears. Or anything bad is about to happen in the cartoon she cover her ears. At home she sings row row row your boat and screams in high pitched sounds. However with other group of children she is scared and cover her ears pretty early on and babbles jibberish loudly to cover her ears.

However, she is not scared of hand dryer or hoover.

I have booked a private hearing test as NHS rejected mine mentioning there are more severe children in the queue.

Still figuring out!!!

@HeyMom how is your DS now? Did the Paediatrician see him in January and are you getting any support? 

@NewMum118 if your DD has selective mutism, has the HV done a recent Ages & Stages and has she been referred to SLT yet?

@Mummy0307 my son is somewhat similar. He loves rhyme time and school. He dances and participates also. But he is very hyperactive. He is also very good at ignoring. He started responding to his name early on. But since he started running (which is pretty much the time he started walking ) he has got very good at ignoring us. He probably runs the fastest in his group. A sort of hyperactivity disorder definitely comes to my mind. He is 2.5 years old.

@SiouxsieSiouxStiletto i don't live in the UK. I am based out of India and that is why I keep posting on this thread. There isn't much NHS type help available here. Everything is private. I have not had any consultations yet as his paed did not have a lot of concerns. He is very good with children and my son played with him well. But i am still concerned about him ignoring us.

Also I think he definitely knows his name. He even looks at his pictures and says it. But i cannot understand why he would not respond to me.

@Mummy0307 also i am also struggling with hi and bye. He used to do that very well and in a communicative way. We infact showed it off to everyone 🙂 but then he started doing it less and now I can't make him do it at all. He will give a flying kiss , hi fi or shake hands though.

If he's actually losing skills I'm not sure why your Paediatrician isn't concerned. I know that you're already concerned about ASD so saying that losing skills is a red flag for this won't come as a huge shock.

@SiouxsieSiouxStiletto i did ask. But actually he didn't exactly regress. For example he restarted doing some of the things that he had stopped doing. Like giving a kiss when asked or doing hi fi. He also never lost skills like pretend play, imitation, following a point, joint attention. After 20 months he started following two step complicated instructions, pointing at things when asked where is it. It is quite complicated. I was very very concerned about ASD till he turned 22 months when his receptive language, play skills, etc developed really well. Pointing is now decent too. Although he doesn't point as much as other kids his age. Now I think of it more of a hyperactivity disorder. I am afraid that he would not thrive in school if it continues. If he cannot sit , he won't learn.

I am posting all these details as I am looking to connect with Moms who have had similar experiences to know how can I help my son.

Now I think of it more of a hyperactivity disorder. I am afraid that he would not thrive in school if it continues. If he cannot sit , he won't learn.

He's a bit little to expect to sit for a long time. How old will he be when he starts school?

He is 2.5 years old next week and going to a toddler playgroup. He will start pre-school in a year at 3.5 years of age. That's how it is done here in India.
He is young i know but much more active than any other toddler in his group. It is really difficult for him to sit for decent amount of time.

My DD is not hyperactive at all. Everyone who meets her says she is obedient. She is just in her own world, when she is outdoors. Which leads me to thinking she may be struggling from something which I can’t pin point on.

She knows her A-Z, 1-20 and knows many words from the flash card. What concerns me is her social anxiety with peers and strangers and her overwhelmed reactions to certain loud music/children screaming/ children crying.

Praying for all of you and when we wake up tomorrow… poof* Nothing to worry about.

Being a mum is hard 😩😩

And my other concern is his name response.

@Mummy0307 I agree , being a mom is really hard. I too wish that all Moms get through this worrying phase.

Have you any updates

I do. Looks like my son was just going through a phase. He has started talking , responding to questions with words and phrases. He loves books, especially stories and constantly brings them to me. He would ask me to ask him things he knows from the word book. It's like he wants to flaunt what he knows :). Name response is ok but it is very clear when he is deliberately ignoring us. His nursery said he had a massive leap in social development at 30 months.
He participates in activities and knows the names of his peers as well. He is still not playing together with peers and is in parallel play stage but I am not worried at all.

He used to keep talking to himself too but that came down once he started talking to us. Now he constantly wants to do things together with me. His imaginative play and receptive language was always at par with age now he is making progress in other areas.

With name response I do think he chose to ignore us because it was clear he knew his name. Example when infront of the mirror I asked him where is "his name" he would point to himself.

I stopped worrying after he turned 2.5 years.

Hi how’s your dd doing please ? My 17 months old DD going through the same ☺️