So I have previously wrote about my concerns with my daughter when she was 15 and then 16 months old. Pretty much had concerns since the age of 12 months when she got covid. Prior to that I had no concerns. I had and still have autism concerns. She’s now 20 months old.
With communication:She mainly whole hand points and moans and adds a vocal noise to get our attention. She switches between whole hand pointing and index finger pointing. She had been pointing on and off very minimally since the age of 15 months but i wouldn’t say that skill was very consistent until the last month so 19 months going into the 20th month.
She has only around 5 words one of which is “ham” when she’s eating or when she wants food. “Oww” for ouch and “bebba” for peppa which she’d utterly obsessed with. She only watches peppa pig and refuses everything else.and another two in our language. We speak two languages at home. Again she doesn’t use these words every single day!
She seems delayed to me and isn’t fond of her siblings, cousins or other people. She seems like she doesn’t like people at all really.
She is utterly obsessed with me and I mean that. She ONLY communicates with me and that’s pretty much 99% of the time. She follows me around all day.She brings me things, shows me things,toys, food, remote anything she finds really. She only responds to her name if I say it. Will maybe 1/10 look at someone else that’s calling her name but basically pretends they don’t exist. I on the other hand she responds to her name very consistently when I call her. I find this very strange.
She still runs away from me when I take her out but stops here and there when I cal her name sternly. Recently when I take her to the park she does stay near me but it depends one day she stays near me and the next she runs and could care less.
Her eye contact with me is good but she refuses to look at other people unless it’s a slight glance. She hates being picked up by anyone else but me and wriggles her way out of them. She pushes them away when they get close. I’m talking of cousins, uncles even her dad. She was very fond of her dad when she was younger but over the past few months she isn’t interested in him in the slightest bit and doesn’t smile for him. Again she doesn’t smile at anyone apart from me occasionally.
Feel like all I say is NO to her all day everyday as she’s into anything and everything and it’s like as if she forgets she’s not allowed to do certain things as it seems like she doesn’t care at all. She sometimes looks at me before she does something, she used to be more consistent with this but not so much anymore.
She still is obsessed with the tv in particular peppa pig. Would rather watch tv all day if she could get away with it but obviously I don’t let that happen. Will bring the remote to anyone for help to put that on. She will snatch iPads/tablets off her cousins not caring that they are using it and cries for it. She likes to run up and down in living room,she sometimes spins herself probably a few times every few days, tilts her head sometimes randomly as she’s walking. I know these repetitive behaviours have been linked to Autism.
Sometimes she also tenses up shakes acts like she’s had an electric shock when she’s excited by something.
As prior history on my posts she is a child that get poorly with ear infections, colds and tummy issues majority of her life so I don’t know how much this can have an effect on her development.
My main concern is unless she with me is that she does not communicate or go to anyone if I’m not there. I am with her majority of the time but can’t always be present 24/7 as I work too.They as in family that age may see once a month have mentioned and commented on her not responding to her name or even bothering to look at them when they want her attention. But she also doesn’t respond to her name when siblings call her which I find strange again. When she was younger she was very good at responding to her name.