What does it mean when your child struggles socially

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My ds is 3 he started nursery in september and when we had a parents day she said my ds is very bright but suffers socially. I have a general idea but could could do with more insight to what they mean. My ds has challenging behaviour he is very lively but can also be very good.

it doesn't mean anything long term
it just means at the moment
it's a big shock, all those children he doesn't know
if he's "lively" and "challenging" the other children might not take to him for a bit but it's not something to worry about for ever
he might not even notice himself......
he probably doesn't have the right techniques for making friends yet and not surprising either
maybe he barges in a bit
but he'll get the hang of it

speaking from experience
don't worry
bless his cottons

I would think it means he hasn't yet established good social interactions, struck up and maintained friendships and learnt to play cooperatively with others rather than in parallel. Not necessarily an issue at 3.

Sounds like my ds. He's now 5 and is just a little emotionally immature. He's very bright and has always kept up or overtaken his peers academically, but struggles with sharing, turn taking etc. If things don't go according to his plan then he protests A Lot!..

Whereaas his peers would sit down and shut up if asked, ds will object and debate with teachers etc about why he shouldn't.

He needs encouragement to play with his peers rather than just watching them or pestering them, but he's getting there now he's been at school for a few months.

both nursery and school have been very good at communicating how he's getting on and how he's improving as well as some of the more disappointing times when he's just out of order.

Communication is key - there may be chances for other meetings - not big official assessment type things - but just keeping the lines of communication open. Letting the nursery know that you're willing to be consistent with whatever they do with him while he's there will be a big encouragement for the staff and a big help for your ds.

It took a while for my ds to understand that the nursery/school would expect the same kind of behaviour there as I would at home.

Thankyou folks he is a little rough he hasnt ever hit,bitten anyone at nursery but would think nothing of barging past someone. The teacher did mention about sharing and said he isnt very good at that. We also have a dd who is just 1 and of course now my ds is having to learn to share when she is crawling round picking up his toys .