25 month old not talking

[SamK93]

Ds3 is 2 years old and since pregnancy there's always been one thing after another. By this age my other two were speaking sentences. Maybe that's why I am so stressed. I think about it day and night, I am constantly worrying that something is wrong. He has said a few words in the past, for example he picked up his star shape and said star. He looked at his farm puzzles and picked up the duck and said duck. He recognises all his foam letters and says the sounds of the letters and numbers, but he doesn't actually speak to me. Or ask me for anything or say any words. He babbles all day long he loves to listen to me sing and talk to him but isn't saying and words himself. I'm constantly worrying about him and I don't know what do.

You'll probably get a raft of people telling you that theirs didn't speak and they're fine now but for us it was ASD so it's definitely worth looking into.

If you're not sure what to do id do this SLT progress checker from Talking Point and an MChat test

Both will tell you if there are any areas for concern

Hi,

it sounds like you’ve had a tough time. Getting some support is important.your child’s health visitor will do a 2 yr old check. If you call them with your concerns, they normally prioritise visiting. they are usually great at spotting signs of disordered development.

I would caution against using screening tools such as the MChat. It really isn’t very accurate and can lead to false negatives (harmful reassurance) and false positives (harmful worry). The absence of gestures is most indicative of something not right. I’d recommend looking up “16x16 gestures”, the website is a really good, evidence based resource.

best of luck

Hi mine is the same. He's 2.4 months and still yet tot hear the word mum. Other people are starting to comment in the family now and it's really getting me down. Your not alone xx

Have you had a referral to SLT and a hearing test yet @Midlandsmum1984?

Truth is I've been burying my head in sand hoping it will just come as its making me very anxious. I feel myself avoiding places so I don't have to compare him. Think I need to do something and pull my head out the sand xxx

Comparison is the thief of joy @Midlandsmum1984! It's easy to say that though but it is true. Just remember that no child is perfect and they all have their little things that need dealing with.

I'd start off by doing this SLT progress checker. It will say if he needs any support and they've also got a useful helpline where you can talk through your concerns.

Then I'd look into getting him a hearing test. In some areas you can self refer or you may need to get your HV/Nursery to do it. A SLT will want him to have had a hearing test before they see him

@Midlandsmum1984 I haven't heard the word mum either. Completely in the same boat as you. People in the family have been expressing their opinions since he's turned 2. It's really hard not to let it get you down. When he went for 2 year old development checks she said she will refer me to get a hearing check even though I've never noticed any problems with his hearing apparently it's the first step they take to rule anything out.

No he mine can definitely hear.. he knows as soon as a bag of crisps comes out from the other room !
Yeah he saying any recognisable words. Mine is saying some but they are not the obvious ones like he cannot say mum, dad sisters names or ta thankyou/ but he can say count to 10

@Midlandsmum1984 same with mine, he can definitely hear. Also can count to ten and say a few colours and recognise letters and animals. He just won't speak to me or anyone directly if you get what I'm trying to say

Sounds exactly the same position as us. He talks but not chit and chatter back and forth in a conversation. I've tried everything.. he understand simple request like turn the light on or go find you car.. its just like if I explain it as not socially interacting. Have you been to 2 year check ? X

Sorry just seen you have been to one. We'll I'm going to rebook ours as missed it in Dec due to illness. Its a worry isn't it