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Shy 26month old?

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Ayd7815 · 10/11/2022 12:32

Hi all.
I wondered if anyone had some insight
My daughter is 26m old
She's very sociable at home and chatty and is speaking in phrases. No other delays or anything concerning

Problem is around extended family she does see daily and in nursery she only goes 2 days a week and started in Sept She doesn't say anything and if I'm there and ask her something she will whisper it

Also she's very happy and smily and has fun at nursery I'm told but just prefers to be quiet. She's otherwise gets stuck in and is confident in tasks etc.

I don't no if they have got her to try and talk or ask her questions or read books etc
She loves miss Rachel preschool on YouTube and always says and copies her and sings the songs too.

She's otherwise super happy and sociable at home etc
With my side of family she's better and does say things and open up too.

Not so much at nursery and with my husbands family?
I googled it and saw selective mutism and now I'm panicking
She doesn't seem to have anxiety disorder?! Thanks again x

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Ayd7815 · 10/11/2022 12:39

Ayd7815 · 10/11/2022 12:32

Hi all.
I wondered if anyone had some insight
My daughter is 26m old
She's very sociable at home and chatty and is speaking in phrases. No other delays or anything concerning

Problem is around extended family she does see daily and in nursery she only goes 2 days a week and started in Sept She doesn't say anything and if I'm there and ask her something she will whisper it

Also she's very happy and smily and has fun at nursery I'm told but just prefers to be quiet. She's otherwise gets stuck in and is confident in tasks etc.

I don't no if they have got her to try and talk or ask her questions or read books etc
She loves miss Rachel preschool on YouTube and always says and copies her and sings the songs too.

She's otherwise super happy and sociable at home etc
With my side of family she's better and does say things and open up too.

Not so much at nursery and with my husbands family?
I googled it and saw selective mutism and now I'm panicking
She doesn't seem to have anxiety disorder?! Thanks again x

I meant to say relatives she's doesn't see daily

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DeedIDo · 11/11/2022 14:23

DGS is older than your DD, he's 30 months and doesn't speak to us or make eye contact with us at all.

He interacts with his DM, but that's about all.

His DM says he is shy, but we know he did not speak at all during his developmental check recently and is to be followed up.

eliayd · 11/11/2022 14:36

DeedIDo · 11/11/2022 14:23

DGS is older than your DD, he's 30 months and doesn't speak to us or make eye contact with us at all.

He interacts with his DM, but that's about all.

His DM says he is shy, but we know he did not speak at all during his developmental check recently and is to be followed up.

Hi. My DD doesn't have this issue where she doesn't talk to us. She's very social and chatty at home emotionally so close to me especially. She doesn't let me work cook clean anything she just wants me to play with her and sit with her and wants to show me everything she's doing if you know what I mean. HahaZ I don't think it's a developmental issue I think it's anxiety. It's mainly at nursery. She's only been there 2 months 2 days a week. She would cry alot at first now she's happy there just won't say anything yet. Otherwise they said she's confident girl. I just hope she grow out of it. But if she needs some help then I wonder if I should look into this now.

eliayd · 12/11/2022 17:28

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skkyelark · 12/11/2022 20:57

To be honest, at this age and having relatively recently started nursery, I would just give her a bit more time unless nursery have expressed concerns. I think it's quite normal for toddlers to take awhile to warm up and talk, without it being any serious form of anxiety.

DD1 was a little bit younger when she did this, but didn't initially talk to the nursery staff as her speech developed, even ones she'd known since 13 months old, and longer still to talk in front of a group of staff/children – they initially tracked her speech development by noting what she said to herself or to other children. She's 3 now, very social, no indication of anxiety, recently started a drop-and-go sports class with no trouble whatsoever

eliayd · 13/11/2022 00:51

skkyelark · 12/11/2022 20:57

To be honest, at this age and having relatively recently started nursery, I would just give her a bit more time unless nursery have expressed concerns. I think it's quite normal for toddlers to take awhile to warm up and talk, without it being any serious form of anxiety.

DD1 was a little bit younger when she did this, but didn't initially talk to the nursery staff as her speech developed, even ones she'd known since 13 months old, and longer still to talk in front of a group of staff/children – they initially tracked her speech development by noting what she said to herself or to other children. She's 3 now, very social, no indication of anxiety, recently started a drop-and-go sports class with no trouble whatsoever

Thanks for your message. I hope my LO is ok soon too. The nursery haven't expressed concern they did say give her time but I'm just paranoid! She doesn't seem like she has serious anxiety just gets quiet and shys away in-front of certain people. Like to day at grandmas she decided to talk up a storm. But as soon as more people came to grandmas she went quieter. She doesn't like being put in the spot by anyone else either. But she will happily answer me or my husband if we ask her a question and she currently is asking 'what's that' to everything she sees atm. And saying what shape and colour she sees haha. X

eliayd · 25/11/2022 11:51

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