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baby personality change?! help!

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sallbroken · 04/11/2022 13:54

First time mum so yup..little knowledge and completely don't know what I'm doing. My baby has generally been pretty chill - would cry, but very easily settled, within minutes (and yes I know very lucky here). Very into weaning and food originally. Very happy pottering around playing with toys. I've never done anything like CC or CIO and we do a. mixture of co-sleeping / sleeping in her room with her (she was a NICU baby so its really important to me to be close to her overnight because I couldn't be at the beginning).

LO is now 13 months old. In the last 4-6 weeks..it's like she's got a different personality. She is eating very little / will only eat a very small range of food. She is deep DEEP in separation anxiety - so much so, leaving the room triggers crying until me or partner return. She's not able to settle at all at childminders (they are likely to give their notice soon which is fair). She can't walk yet, but really wants us to hold her hands while she walks and gets frustrated by this, I think.

I feel like somehow something has gone dreadfully wrong. I feel really worried I have parented her all wrong and caused this separation anxiety / challenges around food and dependence. Other friends seem to have babies who are quite happy to go to other people, eat widely etc etc.

Any reassurance? Any similar experiences? Any advice?

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PritiPatelsMaker · 04/11/2022 14:34

Could she be unwell @sallbroken? Does she improve with Calpol?

MaisieGreenYellow · 15/11/2022 19:41

I almost wish I had better news for you so you could fix it but we’re at 19 months and my god, my DD is tough. Same here really, she was always pretty chilled out in the day, enjoyed food - always a bad sleeper and still is but that’s another story. Going through a really fussy eating phase, barely eats, throws it on the floor, refuses most foods that she used to like. Her tantrums are so extreme and separation anxiety so intense. I can’t go for a shower, leave the room, go to work etc without a huge breakdown with tears. It’s been up and down for months. I don’t want to make you feel worse by saying that we’re still experiencing it, but just wanted you to know that it’s not just you, I think it’s pretty normal from what people tell me. Girls are bloody intense!

sallbroken · 15/11/2022 22:03

Gosh thank you @MaisieGreenYellow . yes, I did want better news (!) but it is really quite reassuring to hear it is in the realms of normals. The separation anxiety is just out of this world, bless her. I'm trying to lean into it and just remember that she's basically a toddler now not a baby. But oh wow. I'm tired.

@PritiPatelsMaker i think she was a bit ill, then got better, then had her vaccinations, then was ill on the back of them. So a bit of a whirlwind. She's better now..and she is generally a bit more chill since (although nowhere near actually laid back lol).

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