Meltdown in sleep.

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We are waiting to see a neurologist for my 19months son. He has stop talking, he use to say 4 words and it's only just mum or points. Plus there is other things that we fine odd. For months now his meltdowns have been getting worse, there is no way of consoling him, he wants to be pick up and at the same time doesn't. However he will now wake up in his sleep and have these meltdowns. They last from 20min to an hour.

We've tried destruction just as he is about to have one but when it's out the blue, like the sleep one I just don't know what to do.

Has anyone got any tips etc.

Is he actually waking for the sleep ones?

My middle daughter used to have tantrums in her sleep. They were normally about not wanting to go in her buggy or be strapped in her car seat. She'd scream "don't strap me in!" and things like that. You could actually talk her out of them.
I'd sit next to her and say "you're not in your buggy/car seat. You're not strapped in. You're sleeping in bed." and she'd eventually calm down.

However if she had a big tantrum when awake, sometimes the best thing to do was to put her into her bed/cot because she was safe there. She'd do the wanting to be held/not wanting to be held too. I think she was so worked up she didn't know what she wanted. She'd normally fall asleep fairly quickly afterwards.

Now your ds' do sound worse, and I expect you've tried that. She was a little older, so perhaps a little easier to (try) and reason with.

However if she had a big tantrum when awake, sometimes the best thing to do was to put her into her bed/cot because she was safe there. She'd do the wanting to be held/not wanting to be held too. I think she was so worked up she didn't know what she wanted. She'd normally fall asleep fairly quickly afterwards.

I can recognise that as DD used to get so worked up that she didn't know what she wanted either.

Agree that if you're home, it's worth trying putting him in the cot.

So when he has a melt down if awake he will scream like in pain and doesn't want to be picked up even putting arms out.

He has them when he is fast asleep, and I put him in the cot and same thing, wants to be held but doesn't.

He doesn't talk and but will point but even that, what ever he is pointing too he doesn't want it.

I find it so hard as I don't understand him and he must be frustrated as well.