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Milk strike at childminders

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megosaurusrex · 03/11/2022 21:23

DS is 17 months and we moved areas recently and he's been going to a childminder twice a week. He's a really happy, playful little guy but has quite severe separation anxiety when me or DH are not around.
It will obviously take him some time to adjust to the change, but what concerns me is that he will take no food, milk or water whatsoever the whole time he is there. He did use to do this a bit at his previous childminders but never refused completely.
Sounds like the childminder has been trying everything they can think of. I sent some fruit pouches and snacks he likes in with him today but he refused those too, spent some time with him there last week to help him get settled in, nothing seems to have helped so far.
I've wondered if he'd prefer somewhere else but might just prolong or worsen the problem. I need to take on more days at work but this is honestly making me think twice. Has anyone else experienced this and got any advice?

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megosaurusrex · 04/11/2022 07:27

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PritiPatelsMaker · 04/11/2022 11:25

How long has he been at the new Childminder? And has she suggested anything?

megosaurusrex · 04/11/2022 12:23

PritiPatelsMaker · 04/11/2022 11:25

How long has he been at the new Childminder? And has she suggested anything?

He's only been there about 4 weeks now. I know it's early days, he was nothing like this bad at the previous childminder though. She hasn't really come up with any ideas, just keeps telling me she's been trying to get him to drink all day.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 04/11/2022 12:33

What's your gut feeling on this? Are you otherwise happy with his care?

megosaurusrex · 04/11/2022 14:01

I don't really know, I do worry him being there but don't know if I'm being paranoid - I haven't seen or heard anything concerning from them. I've started looking into nurseries in the hope that might be a better fit for him.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 04/11/2022 21:23

I've not worked in Childcare but I think if he's not settling I would be looking at alternatives and talking to the new setting about his refusal ti eat and drink too.

Just wondering if when he's at home, it's always you that offers food and drink? Could you not be around for some meals like goer DH /DP to get up and give him breakfast or to take him out for a couple of hours in the day to the park/library and to a cafe?

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