I feel like screaming, someone plz comes with some answers

[dollarprincess]

Our daughter has just turned 2 on jan 5th and has a large hemangioma ( birthmark)on her right cheek.
she first slept through the night when she was 11 wks old which was great.
At 13-14 wks the hosptital tried an experiment on herthat they had used on a little boy who has asthma and gave her steriods to see if the birthmark would go down.
My god that was the worst times of our lives, she was awake nearly 23 hours a day because of the side effects.
Now 2 yrs on she still does not sleep all night at all, in hte past 2 yrs i think we have had only 4 whole nights sleep.
We have tried control cryin ( doesn't work at all she can cry all night all week in a trot and not think twice about doing it).
Docs have givin her phenigan, vallergan and now even tried the jet lag medicine to try and get back into a natural sleep ( hahaha what a joke)
I know this sounds awful but sometimes i could quite easily throw out the nearest window as we are so tired.
Anyone have any sugestions?

Have you tried some other methods, such as in the book 'no cry sleep solution'. I haven't used it myself have seen it here named many times.

Can you give us more information? Does she have a night time routine? Does she sleep at all during the day? At what time does she go to 'bed' in the evening? Is she diagnosed wiith hyperactivity or anything else?

What does your GP think of it?

When you say 'control crying', how did you do it? There are some very specific methods associated with control crying, and some books can give you very practical methods and tips on how to do it. It involves a lot more than leaving a child to cry. "Sleeping Through the Night: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep" is a good book which I have used, and there is a method of 'control crying' stated in it.

Your problem looks very serious... feeling very sorry for you

have never heard that book, we have tried ever methed written on control cryin,what the health visitor has sugested, peadritians, consultants etc ( sorry about spelling not woke up properly yet)
Night time routine, bed at 7, she might have a sleep during day, if she gets to tired she bullies her 4 yr old sister, and she is not diagnosed with anything just a devil with horns lol.

OK, I have read here that one of the problems with Control crying is that if you do it often, or try and then give up, it becomes useless. Maybe you should forget about letting her cry for a couple of weeks, and try a different more gentle method afterwards. I think it's worth reading the 'no cry sleep solution' many people here think it's very good. I know that HVs are often quick on recommending control crying, but there are other ways.

Does she fall asleep on her own at 7:00? And then wakes up? How many times?

My oldestson didn't sleep through the night until he was 18 months old. DS2 is 8 months and still wakes up once.

yes she falls asleep by herself, then wakes up could be anything in between 1-20 times a night

oh GOD you poor thing

have you tried co-sleeping? not ideal i know, but when she wakes she might drop off quicker. what does she do when she wakes? does she want to play, or what

does she eat ok? her appetite i mean

I had a very hard time with my ds2, excema being the complication. He was younger but after struggling for months when he was one I started co-sleeping with him for 10 months. I gave up trying to control the sleep situation (I was wrecked) It gradually got better.

Tehya has always been a small eater, but then can have times where she eats tons.
Have tried co sleeping but then she can still wake up about maybe once or twice a night.
Tehya also has a household dustmite allergy and she has excema and we have found that trying different creams for a bout 2-3 wks then trying another one as if we keep to the same one it stops working

Co-sleeping sounds like the answer for a while. Waking once or twice has to be better than 20 times! (sounds like she's much more settled if sleeping with you, and if that's how she is, well, that's how she is. It won't last for ever)

Have you tried massage? I know this is normally associated with little babies but sounds like you are open to anything!

My ds1 was 2 on 7th Jan so I know how hard it would be to persuade her to keep still but we did this with him when he was smaller. He used to get quite manic and the physicality of the massage used to get him back 'out of his head space' IYKWIM and relax him a bit.

Even little leg and arm squeezes while reading a book or a gentle rub, worth a try?

I really feel for you, good luck x