Baby failed 10-12m check - is her development normal?

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Hi,
looking for advice and just some general thoughts.

(Just) 10m baby had her 10-12m check and after completing her ASQ I was a bit worried about her development.

• she did wave but now doesn’t really, just raises her hand, often in context but also out of it. No waving motion or bending fingers, but passable as a wave
• she did clap, now doesn’t at all (maybe 3 months of not doing so).
• she babbles and says dada but not necessarily at her daddy, but again did say mama but now doesn’t. she’s noisy besides and is often babbling or squealing but not in a set pattern/conversational style.

All that said, she is happy, eats great/can feed herself by hand (not yet with cutlery), gives good eye contact, loves being read to and turns pages/lifts flaps, is super busy and into everything, cruising with furniture etc, but does seem to hand flap.

At the 10-12m review HV said she was slightly in grey area scoring a 35, I’ve no idea what the ‘normal’ range is. She said she thought it would all be fine (not sure she would have said anything else though??) and she would ring me in a couple of months and make sure she was doing the things she can’t and to sing nursery rhymes and talk to her lots and she thought it would all be fine.

I’ll be honest, I’m frantic and pushing the clapping like my life depends on it.

Has anyone else had a similar experience and it turned out ok?
Or not?

please be kind, I’m worried x

Honestly? I'd try to forget all about it. Things like this can rob you of the joy of your baby.

By all means talk to her, read to her and sing nursery rhymes but do it because that's normal and you'll both enjoy it.

If the HV repeats the test at 12 months she'll probably pass with no problem

Which ASQ form did you use? The 12m?

It’s a 10m ASQ but largely questions are the same as the 12m for communication, but for a couple x

Mine was in the grey at 10 months (but using the 12m test) which resulted in a lot of stress and worrying on my part. If they are not pointing or saying any words the 12 months will also be in the grey but it is actually quite common not to do either of those things at that age. He did make it into the white on later tests but communication and speech was never a strong point. Didn't point until 16 months. Currently doing very well in reception and seems to be communicating pretty well (never shuts up)!

I've had this a few times where at the beginning of the age bracket my DC have been in the grey then I've had a review near the end and they are fine. You can't really fail these it's just a tool for detecting potential issues. One of my DC scored zero on one section for a while and it just meant they got checked by a paediatrician, they have now caught up developmentally.

Thanks for your message x

Thanks for your message and positivity ❤️ X

When my youngest was 12 months he still wasn’t clapping or waving . He didn’t talk either . The only thing I was a bit worried about was the clapping but around 13 months he suddenly figured it out . Anyway he is nearly two and is a very talkative and expressive little boy . His nursery descriptions him as intelligent and social .

Gosh do NOT worry about this. Your LO is 10 months old! there are plenty of 12 month old + babies who don't point or wave or whatever. The review is normally done much nearer 12 months and the question are basically the same. Think about your LO two months ago and what they can do now..now think what they might be able to do in two months!

Also, HVers are a real mixed bag - and I would take their views with a pinch of salt. Sounds like you have a very happy curious healthy child - this is what is important. Rest assured if the HVer was worried she would have referred you on / taken other action, rather than just phoning to see how you are (which she may well not do anyway!)

For my own experience, I think one of the things on the list is playing peekabo. Well, for whatever reason we'd never really played that with you LO. So, she didn't respond to it / engage with it and that was a big NO NO for the developmental checklist (eye roll), Anyway. I made some effort, played some more peekabo..turned out she loves peekabo. So sometimes it isnt anything about 'development' just about different types of play that you've done with your baby (and it sounds like you are doing lots of great play).

Does she generally share attention and interests with you ? Will she interpret your expressions and reactions ? Will she follow your gaze and expect you to follow hers ?

Thank you, reassuring! X

Yes, she will sit on my knee and read books and I play hide & seek with toys and she looks for them under the cushion or whatever.
And yes will follow my gaze and looks at me in the eye and wants me, isn’t only interested in playing by herself etc. is quite sociable etc, all of which I hope are positives and mean her development is ok!
the worry is just unreal!!!! X