My daughter started school in September, she's a younger member of the class as turned 4 in June.
I know people say that they hold their emotions in and school and let them out at home, and as far as I'm aware her behaviour is excellent at school, but at home she's foul. I feel awful even writing that. She's a bright, active, lovely little girl but in the last couple of months I don't know where my little friend has gone.
She is so angry and aggressive at home. Screaming and shouting angrily when things don't go her way eg if she draws a picture and a line doesn't go quite the way she imagined, if I say she can't have sweets right before tea, if I ask her not to run off in the carpark etc. Her immediate reaction is to scream and shout and I mean her voice is cracking it's so loud. She'll also sometimes be aggressive during these angry episodes, kicking me or hitting my husband in particular. The screaming can last upwards of half an hour at times. There doesn't seem to be anything I can do to calm her down, which is fine overall, if she's angry she's angry and I've tried to explain that it's ok to be angry but it's not ok to scream at people and hurt them but it seems to be falling on deaf ears. I've read a lot about being present with the child when they're feeling these 'big' emotions so we don't send her to her room or shout back of hit back of course, but I just don't know what to do from here. I feel like we're all walking on egg shells around her to avoid her angry outbursts.
Sorry for the long post but I feel very alone and disappointed in myself I've somehow let things get to this point.
Any advice greatly appreciated. I just want my happy girl back