So this might end up a long one but I have no one else to talk to.
both of my children are currently being assessed for ASD (both show different traits) my youngest has been being assessed longer, as his behaviour is more ‘in your face’ than my oldests. We have been passed about from professional to professional but more than 2.5years later & I don’t seem to be any further forward with actual help. We are on waiting lists for varies things but are basically going it alone for now.
I’m a single mum & the relationship with dad has been unreliable from the day we split. Which of course does not help the behaviour.
over the last few months my youngests behaviour has been getting more & more out of hand, running away, smashing up his room etc etc. today he even wielded a hammer towards me in anger (we had been putting up pictures in his room & id fogotten to move it)
i know they route of most of these kick offs is because they havnt seen dad for around 2months now, my oldest is point blank refusing to go & my youngest keeps saying he will go then we don’t hear from dad 🙄 or he simply changes his mind.
but I’m at my wits end. I can’t keep doing this on my own. My house constantly looks like a bombs went off because of constant kick offs. I can’t have anything nice in my house because it just gets broken. My other son gets completely terrorised. Tonight for example I’ve had to completely empty my sons room, I’ve taken pictures & tele off the walls, move computer, basically taken anything breakable to avoid him hurting himself & to be honest I’m sick of having to replace items (sometimes very expensive ones! I’m a single mum & im a student, so income isn’t exactly a luxury) & because his room was empty he’s been running in & out of his brothers room pushing stuff over aswell. I keep putting him back in the room but we are now on round no 20+ & he’s still going.
obviously because of the additional needs side of things, certain things need to be dealt with differently but there’s only so much more I can take, especially with no help & I feel like I’m due a holiday in the mental hospital.
does anyone have any advice?