Just wanted to talk about my nearly 5 months old who I've come to realise recently may be what people call a "High needs baby." I have struggled with him since birth with colic and silent reflux, the first 3 months he seemed to be crying/ unhappy 90% of his waking hours. Since then he is better from the colic and reflux, is now off medication for reflux. He has turned into a happier baby as long as he is held. And I mean, held constantly, every minute of the day, day and night. If he is set down he will immediately cry. If he is in a good mood he will spend 10 - 15 mins in the bouncer but not longer. He has to be held at night, so he will sleep on my chest for first half the night, and if I can roll him onto the bed without waking him we co-sleep, which only gives me enough rest not to pass out the next day. I have tried to get him used to the cot, I don't know how many hours I have spent shushing and patting, stroking his belly / chest but he will just not have it. Just screams and he gets angrier and angrier. I have tried PUPD but this does not work either as he gets so upset that picking him up won't settle him, and after 2 hours the effort was abandoned. Various people have suggested "cry it out" but I really want to avoid this. Saving grace is that he likes the sling - so we go out and I can do some house work if I have the energy. I do feel exhausted and he is quite heavy to carry around all day long. Psychologically it is tough too - to not have a single moment to myself. I take him to classes which most of them he seems to hate. It makes me feel down to see other babies who seem so chilled out, and can be set down in the cot for them to sleep a few hours stretch. Just wanted to hear from others who may have had similar experience, and any tips on how to make things easier, how to cope. Thank you