Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Behaviour/development

Talk to others about child development and behaviour stages here. You can find more information on our development calendar.

Flip

Original poster

is it normal for my 3.1 yo nephew.......................

13 replies

blushingm · 27/01/2008 16:12

to pooh/wet his pants and not be bothered about it

I only ask as I know other 2 & 3 yo and if they have a slight accident they get very upset. Nephew was out for DS birthday at a restaurant and wet himself and poohed himself twice and was quite happy to just stay like that. He pooh again in the car on the 10 minute drive home - it was all over his bum, back coat and carseat and yet he didn't seem bothered by it

He is also difficult to understand when he speaks and rarely does as he's told - ie running around the restaurant instead of sitting at the table

Is he just young for his age or could there be some developmental delay

OP posts:

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

princessosyth · 27/01/2008 16:27

Most 3.1 year olds would rather run around a restaurant than sit at the table.

Lulumama · 27/01/2008 16:29

maybe he had an upset tummy , hence lots of poo

not all 3 year olds are bothered by poo in their pants

i don;t think it necessarily indicates a developmental delay

my DS was only just toiled trained at 3 years

DD is 2.5 and will happily sit in a pooey nappy without mentioning it

nortynamechanger · 27/01/2008 16:29

He sounds to me as if he is either not ready to be out of nappies or perhaps he needs to be reminded, more often than some other children, to go.

Either way that is quite a few accidents in a short space of time.

Original poster

blushingm · 27/01/2008 16:38

thanks for the replies - it's not only yesterday re the poohey pants i could understand the odd accident but he is quite happy just to sit in it - i remember ds was really upset when he wee'd and he used to hold a pooh all day til he had his nappy on for bed and then do it- but dn is always doing it - i suggested perhaps it would be better to go back to nappies and try again ina couple of months but apparently his nursery have told bil and sil that he should be potty trained and are adamant that all the others in the room are all toilet trained

OP posts:

Desiderata · 27/01/2008 16:41

Is this your dh/dp's blood nephew, or yours?

Anyhow, all those things you describe sound pretty normal. If I can get my 3.2 yo to sit at a restaurant table for ten minutes, I consider myself lucky.

And as lulu said, although he's dry, he will happily sit a pooey nappy all day if you don't change him.

Desiderata · 27/01/2008 16:42

The nursery is being a bit harsh on the poor lad.

Lulumama · 27/01/2008 16:43

definitely harsh

children develop at different rates

it is not simply a question of attaining the correct number of years or months , there should not be a hard and fast rule for it

WigWamBam · 27/01/2008 16:53

You do realise that he might not even be aware that he's pooed, don't you? It might not be that he's "happy" to sit in it, he may not even know he's done it.

Which would suggest that he's really not ready for toilet training at all, and your BIL and SIL should tell the nursery to go swivel.

chipmonkey · 27/01/2008 17:08

Nursery v. unreasonable IMO. Toilet training comes more naturally to some children than to others. Ds1 was a nightmare to train, ds2 was a doddle, ds3 is 3 but could not be bothered so I think looks similar to ds1 and ds2.

Original poster

blushingm · 28/01/2008 15:45

dn is son of dh brother - i don't know how he can't realise he's done it. if you say have you poohed he'll answer yes or no depending on if he has.

Has anyone got any tips or is it just a case of bil and sil waiting and sticking to thier guns re nursery - he's not allowed to go to the school nursery til he's clean and dry

OP posts:

juuule · 28/01/2008 17:42

My dd was 3y4m before she was out of nappies in the day. She wasn't bothered if she'd dirtied her nappy or not.
As for sitting still. If she was bored she wouldn't sit still for very long.
Your nephew sounds normal.
Agree with whoever else said that he doesn't sound ready to be out of nappies yet though and that the nursery is being a bit harsh.

bigdonna · 28/01/2008 18:49

he is allowed to go to school nursery with a nappy on but the nursery staff cant change it so your sil would get a call to change it.school nurseries are not insured to change nappies.As for the sitting still my kids have always loved going to restaurants so normally sat still at that age,but have gone out with friends whom are quite happy to let kids run around each to their own.at the moment i have a mindee who is 3 he has very weak bladder always wetting himself and last week he pooed.(found him in bathroom trying to clean his undies)bless his cotton socks so we are all different.

kbaby · 28/01/2008 21:08

Not sure if this helps but my DD's nursery were keen to potty train dd, We both trained her together but I couldnt get her dry at home for some odd reason, but yet she stayed dry in nursery. It meant that she wore knickers to nursery(which kept them happy) but when she came home I put a nappy on her. Within a few months I tried again and it worked at home.

Do you know if hes clean and dry at nursery?

Flip