My kids are driving me mad!!!!!!

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Help, is it just me, the time of the year or what?
My kids are driving me mad. Its constant arguing, and its getting me down. DD always wants to sit in the front of the car, and so we are having rushing to the front door of the car, her opening the door, and ds slamming it, etc. I haven't got time to keep a rota, its just pathetic.

Tonight we have had upset because DS1 needed new trainers, and he wanted total 90's. DS2 already has these, had them weeks ago, but is upset because DS1 has gold ones, which weren't out when he got his. DD joined in, she needs new trainers, her old ones are too small, so the pair of them were stropping in the shop, and refused to come out.
Result, one very stressed out mum who is fed up trying to keep them all happy, and resentful, because they are so lucky, and there are kiddies all over the world with no food, no homes, no toys.

Rant over.

poor you - have a large glass of wine

I seemed to do nothing but shout at mine all morning until they went to school and then, having spent all day tidying up the mess from the weekend, I shouted at them again for another hour or so this evening. Perhaps it is something in the air!

I think November is a miserable month - nights are getting dark, everyone is looking forward to December when all the parties and madness begins, and everyone is dreading the winter 9whoa, that was really cheery wasn't it?! at least it's December the day after tomorrow)

ARRRGGH, at least its not just me then.

Oh I forgot to mention that when I finally exited the shop, ranting and raving, steam pouring from my ears, the guy in the next car gave me a dirty look. I could have cheerfully clobbered him.

I am getting cagey about leaving the house in the mornings ever since I noticed I am always mid way through a rant just as I open the door and I am obsessed that my neighbours have noticed!

kk girl, how old are they? mine usually shut up when I say that if they want designer stuff, they pay at least half and if they're not old enough to be saving pocket money, they're not old enought for designer stuff. You're right, too young and kids all over the world are starving. Keep going, you sound like a great mum!

jollymum

Sorry, I ended up drinking an Archers Aqua, and creeping off to bed early, as I was so stressed out.

DS1 is nearly 11, and dd and ds2 are 8 1/2. This all started because ds2 plays football, and needed astroturfs, so wanted total 90's. DS2 doesn't play football really, just kickabout, but he then wanted them.
They all get clothes allowance, so it shouldn't be a problem, but everything seems to be an issue in our house, ie, seating in the car.

By the way even more galling, ds1 is now size 7 so his trainers were £40. Paperround for him soon I think

oh my god! solidarity.....i seem 2 b constantly 'at' my two....agree totally about being paranoid that the neighbours can hear me! sometimes just want a day where i dont have to raise my voice.......

Hi, Have not done this before so here goes. I have two kids one who is 2 next week and a 5 month old. I am pulling my hair out with my two year old as he is getting fustrated with not being able to talk it is driving me mad with constant moaning and the grinding of the teeth. I have tried all sorts, books, DVD's and TV I just want to skip the next few month until he can speak! My husband is working and I just want to sit down and cry!!

sorry to hear this.but dont cry give us a (not very helpful am i?!)

and if ur anything like me....(dd1 is nearly 7) you'll be regretting the day that u wanted them to start talking........they never stop!!!

Thanks for those words they made me smile!! I don't think it helps me living is a different country but I must plod on! Any more advise on teaching L how to speak? any tips would be great....

No real tips Hayleylou, but I can remember the frustration and anxiety you are feeling, as my ds1 didn't say a recognisable word until he was 2.2 and I had taken him to speech therapy. His words were very jumbled for a couple of years afterwards but he is now 8.5 and very bright and articulate. Someone once said to me "Don't worry, once he talks, you'll wish he had never started" and I thought I wouldn't because I was so anxious about him, but, of course, there are times when you wish the little B**r would shut up! I'm sure you will reach that day. Just keep talking to him and try not to guess what he is saying so he doesn't need to make the effort to speak. Eg, with my 21 month old now, I try to make him say yes and no instead of grunting, but most of the time, I just get the grunt!

That sounds like me!

Hi everyone

i am very new to this and a mother of dd1 who is 5yrs and dd2 who is 2.3 yrs both drive me potty with their constant bickering and dd2's constant screaming and grunting because she cant speak yet - i feel like the world's worst mum and a complete failure as i am constantly on edge and shouting at them both and don't feel like i really enjoy my kids.Up until a month ago i was a full time mum and dd2 was at home full time (not good for me or for her!!!) - i have recently gone back to work full time as i couldn't cope with the isolation - dd1 is at school and dd2 is at nursery - it is very hard and expensive and has it's drawbacks also but it is better than sitting at home cracking up ready to commit murder all of the time - any mums in the Manchester area????????????

Oh I need a good moan this morning. Hope there is someone who can post and make me feel better, I feel so horrible. I am so upset that I am shaky and nearly in tears.
In my perfect world, we would all live happily together in harmony. But the reality is that its arguments and clashes all the time, and its really getting me down.

DD1 has been stropping all through breakfast. DH was at the sink trying to prepare, and she barged in, he said no, and off she went, into orbit.
DS2 is still groaning about the trainers, and it ended up with DH saying that he won't take DS2 to football training saturday, as his behaviour, ie backchat, lack of gratitude etc, make DH sick.DS2 has just got a move to Bristol City Juniors who are in the A Division of the local league, so it has been really good, and the love of his life is football, it really grieves me that we will take this away. In fact DH said that he will email manager today, and say DS isn't playing (I think he meant ever). All three have now stomped off to school and I feel terrible.
I feel we need some sort of family counselling, we all with the kids 24/7, only have the odd night out very rarely, and it is all getting too much. DH and I had a big fall out in the summer, and were trying to get an appointment with Relate to try and make things better, but they were booked up for weeks.

Better stop ranting now, it just helps to get it out of my system

sorry, I'm having a shit day, so finding it hard to be chearful or positive but didn't want you to go unanswered. Sorry your day started so badly. Do you have any idea how long you'll have to wait for Relate? Would it be quicker to go for family therapy?
re the football, dh hates it if I 'undermine' him (ie disagree) but while it's ok for him to be pissed off with ds, I don't think he shoul d be able to soley make suck a big decision. I really think he needs to take it back & you & he need to discuss together 1st, to work out what's acceptable to both, then discuss with him, so you're not disagreeing with each other in front of him. Does that make sence? I can't bear ingratitudde & rtudeness so I can understand him flying off on one, but at the same time if your ds has a realtalent, he should be encouraged & it shouldn't be taken away because of a bad morning.

hope this can be of some help. It must feel suffocating. Maybe you can also try to work out ways of getting out as a whole family and also sometimes in varying combinations to give the kids some 1-2-1 time with each parent. how old are they? Goo d luck & best wishes xxxx

Thanks, Ernest, my kids are at that difficult age, one nearly 11 and two 8 and a half.
I think we probably need couple therapy and family counselling, I just feel its such a battle all the time. In a way its reassuring to know its not only us, and that other families have the same. Its just that I have this rosy little picture of happy families, sweetness and light, I guess it is unrealistic. I have spoken to people this morning who say we should stop him going, to make sure he knows he can't get away with it, others say like you, we shouldn't deny him opportunities. Will discuss with DH tonight, and DS and see what happens.

You say you are having a bad day, is there anything I can help you with?

Thanks for your support.

no, just been up half night w baby - just got back from docs, as suspected, ear infection - unfortunately we fly tomorrow, & I've got bad toothach & earache & house is a tip & not started packing arrrrrggggghhhhhh! Good luck w. talk w. dh tomight